The only time you feel like having sex is at the beginning of a relationship.
You’re never really present during sex and spend your time worrying instead.
Sex feels more like a duty to you than something you desire.
Every time your partner touches you, you hope it won’t lead to sex.
You’re too tired or stressed for sex – there’s no passion or excitement anymore.
You have diminished or low sex drive and you don’t understand why.
You’ve tried everything – sexy lingerie, romantic dinners, natural remedies and expensive massage oils – all in the hopes of getting turned on and ready – but nothing works.
You love your partner more than anything and want to feel that desire again – but you’d rather watch Netflix than have sex -- it’s like you could go the rest of your life without sex.
You wish there was something that could help you understand why you used to desire sex and now don’t and what you can do to get your sex drive back.
Sex with your partner feels exciting and intimate. You prioritize and want sex - and it’s enjoyable. It’s a source of happiness, intimacy & love.
You don’t worry anymore about when you last had sex or worry during sex. Sex is a part of your life and you’re there in the moment whenever you have it.
No more anxiety or shame about sex. You understand your sex drive and know how to get it going. Sex gives you pleasure and peace - the way it should be.
“Is it even possible to get my sex drive back? I’m afraid I’m broken somehow.”
“Sex just stresses me out and gives me anxiety … how can I get out of my head?“
“Why did I enjoy sex in the beginning… and now I never want it anymore?”
It can, however, be difficult if you don’t have access to the right knowledge, support and tools.
Sex ed in school didn’t exactly focus on sexual pleasure and desire.
But I know all about it -- and I want to share it with you!
I’m a social worker, trained therapist and clinical sexologist with a Master of Science in Sexology.
When I started my private practice, it wasn’t long before I had a year’s long waiting list. There and then I realised I could help more people by sharing my knowledge and powerful tool in a digital format.
This is when I came up with my 9-month program Re:Desire -- and I’m beyond excited to share it with you! With Re:Desire you don’t have to wait for help – you can get it right now, directly on your mobile device, tablet or computer.
With my unique combination of sexological science, psychotherapeutic tools and coaching methods, I help people remove all the pressure and stress surrounding sex -- as well as increase their desire.
Re:Desire is 9-month online program for people of all genders with low sex drive.
It helps you get your sex drive back and your relationship on track.
It helps you reduce pressure & stress surrounding sex, and increase desire -- for a sex life and relationship you deserve.
Video & audio lessons & lots of actionable tools and exercises (no-fluff guaranteed) all about how sex drive really works, how to deal with anxiety and stress surrounding sex, how to increase intimacy in your relationship and how to get your sex drive back. All based on sexological science and my extensive experience as a sex therapist and coach.
Re:Desire also contains bonus couples exercises to help you get closer to your partner, reduce conflict surrounding sex, talk about sex, and increase intimacy and desire.
9 months of bi-weekly personalized feedback on worksheets and exercises from a coach -- so you know you’re on the right track to increased desire & intimacy. This is where the magic between the curriculum and the 1:1 support really happens!
Submit your worksheets via a private form for support and guidance on your progress in Re:Desire and what your next steps should be.
Bi-weekly 1:1 Coaching for 9 months, with team Leigh Norén. Voxer Hours are specifically designed to coach you through obstacles and increase desire. Like having a personal coach in your backpocket, guiding you each step of the way.
Submit your questions and queries via Voxer and receive answers and coaching whether you can attend live or not! Voxer Hours are available at set times bi-weekly.
Monthly group Q&A sessions for 9 months, with Leigh Norén and the team (with the option to have your name anonymized). These Q&A sessions are a great way to learn from others going through the same things as you. Hear what's working for them, what their challenges are, and get answers to all your burning questions, too.
Questions are pre-submitted and the Q&A sessions are delivered as a recorded video. This means there's no need to turn up live or be nervous about talking to others about such private matters! Enjoy a time-stamped video to head directly to the answer to your specific questions - or watch the whole video to learn from others in the program.
This first phase is all about learning how sex drive works. With quizzes, worksheets and guided exercises, we map it all out so you understand what’s going on -- because you can’t get your desire back if you don’t know why it’s gone in the first place.
While laying the groundwork for increased desire you also get instant access to a quick daily exercise to boost your relationship throughout the duration of the program. The first phase ends with you choosing a personal path forward: tailored to your specific needs and difficulties.
Phase 2 is all about working with expectations surrounding sex, reducing sexual stress and learning how to be present in the moment. You’ll work with thought patterns and feelings connected to sex and your relationship to really banish any and all obstacles that are standing in the way of your desire. The powerful exercises in this phase will help you feel better about yourself, sex and your relationship – helping you create an environment in which your desire can come flowing back to you.
Phase 3 is the fun part – it’s where you explore your sexuality and body and work out what turns you on and how to create the sex life you want -- and deserve. You’ll be figuring out which senses are the most important for your desire, what kind of touch you enjoy, what kinds of scenarios and ideas get you going, and what you find sexy and attractive about your partner.
It’s truly a transformational phase where you get in touch with what sex means to you and what you like sexually – in a safe space. So you and your partner can connect on a sexual level again and feel close.
When you’ve tried a whole host of exercises in order to remove obstacles and explore your sexuality -- it’s time to piece it all together. This is where we get really specific on what’s needed moving forward: you create goals for your sex life and relationship, and create an action plan designed to increase desire & intimacy, while reducing pressure. A plan that's completely tailored to your own specific needs.
This is one of the most impactful and invaluable parts of the curriculum -- it really is a game changer in order for you to get your desire back and experience sexual intimacy.
In this final phase you’ll be focusing on how to make things even better, troubleshooting problems through Voxer Hours and creating a maintenance plan for the future. And this is part of what makes Re:Desire so unique – because we focus on both getting your sex drive back and maintaining a great sex life and relationship. This way you’ll always know what to do in the future if you need to switch things up again.
This program isn’t just about momentarily increasing desire, it’s about understanding your sexuality and sex drive so you can use the tools in the program the rest of your life! With tools, exercises and support, you’ll figure out why you have low sex drive and work out what good sex means to you. By the end of the program you’ll know what you like sexually and you’ll be able to communicate it to your partner too!
Maybe you haven’t had sex in a really long time -- or just haven’t been feeling it lately while having sex. Wherever you’re coming from, your goal is wanting to get your sex drive back. Sex feels like something you want to prioritize (even if you haven’t for a long time and, to be honest, sometimes feel like you could go without it for the rest of your life). But you’re ready to experience that closeness and intimacy again. You want your partner to feel loved and attractive, and you really want to feel good about sex. You’re done with avoiding intimacy and sex and you’re ready to work on it!
Re:Desire gives you all the tools, coaching and support you need, but the only person who can do the work -- is you (with a little help from your partner, of course). By joining the program you’re committed to putting in the time and energy required of you to not only understand your sex drive and increase it -- but to also learn how to create and maintain a sex life and relationship you love and deserve. Just like other things in life that are important to you; you’ll prioritise the program and the life-changing work inside of it.
Re:Desire works best if you’ve previously experienced desire. Maybe you remember a particular time when you were younger, or perhaps your partner sent you swooning in the beginning phases of your relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to have experienced mind-blowing sex or ever have felt particularly comfortable about sex -- just that you’ve experienced desire at some point in your life.
This program is designed for those who are experiencing low libido but who want to work on it and are committed to staying in their relationship or marriage for the time being.
Re:Desire has been designed for people in monogamous relationships or marriages. This means exercises, coaching and feedback all emanates from this standpoint.
Re:Desire works with your desire from a holistic point of view. This means you work on a deep level and address things like: emotions, thought patterns and your relationship. In order to get the most out of Re:Desire it’s important any health struggles you may be experiencing are being treated or have been treated in the past. Re:Desire does not provide treatment for any mental health struggles as it is a coaching program -- not therapy.
While Re:Desire helps you with struggles and challenges in your relationship/marriage, it’s important you and your partner feel amicable towards one another. This isn’t couples therapy, which is why it’s important you have conflict resolution skills or seek help for this elsewhere. Your relationship by no means has to be “perfect”, but you’ll need a solid foundation to build from.
If you’ve previously been subjected to sexual assault and experience triggers surrounding sex, it’s important to seek help before joining Re:Desire. While we do touch on sexual assault in the program, Re:Desire is not therapy, which means the work needed to process previous experiences cannot be dealt with within the program. Any lingering triggers or PTSD from sexual assault need treatment from a mental health professional first.
I’ve helped clients from all walks of life, from parents juggling newborns and toddlers, to ambitious entrepreneurs and people with busy social lives and time-consuming hobbies. If they can all do it - so can you. With pre-recorded curriculum, and accessible coaching and support elements, you don’t need to squeeze any live calls or lessons into your day -- you can view them when you have the time to.
Aging can cause a dip in desire, but it’s possible to increase your desire, even if you’re say, in menopause or have reached the age of retirement. I’ve helped lots of people within a broad age range, from 19-75+ -- so don’t buy into being too old -- because you’re not. As long as you’re willing to put in the energy and effort, more desire and intimacy is truly possible for you.
Most people I’ve helped throughout the years are in serious, long-term, committed relationships. Some of these relationships and marriages have spanned as long as 30+ years -- so no, you definitely haven’t been together too long for the program to work. All strategies have been tried and tested before, and my work is based on sexological science and experience. As long as you trust the process -- even the longest relationship can be brought to life again.
People who are a good fit for the program want to:
Know why their sex drive is low/ gone, and want to desire sex again
Have at some point in their lives experienced desire
Are ready and committed to doing the work to create long-term, sustained desire and intimacy.
If we determine Re:Desire is a good fit, you’ll:
Receive an email with access to a private training for applicants only about how Re:Desire works, the investment, and our unique framework on how to increase intimacy and want sex again -- without pressure or stress.
After you’ve watched the video you can decide if it’s the right time to join
We’ll be in touch via email and/or social media to make sure you’ve received the training and help answer any questions you may have about Re:Desire.
Please know, you’re never under any obligation to join Re:Desire. Should your application be accepted and you receive an invite to the private training -- you can watch it entirely without joining Re:Desire. If you choose to join us it is subject to you paying the fee and accepting our terms & conditions.
You and your partner never talk about sex and the few times you’ve tried, it never goes very well.
You can hardly remember what it’s like to be turned on and you stress out as soon as your partner touches you.
Sex feels like a spousal duty and you feel shame and guilt for never wanting to have sex anymore.
You feel closer to your partner and enjoy sex together. It’s a source of pleasure - not pressure.
You’re no longer afraid or nervous about intimate contact with your partner - you want it.
You no longer feel ashamed or guilty about sex or your sexuality and sex drive. You feel normal.
The program can be done from anywhere in the world -- from a beach in St. Tropez or (more likely) from the comfort of your own home.
You can watch the lessons, do the exercises and use the tools provided in the curriculum while sitting on the sofa or lying in bed.
You can access the curriculum any time, day or night. The curriculum is available 24/7 in the private teaching portal. Support features can be watched/listened to at your leisure.
I get it, it can be nerve-wracking and scary to invest in yourself, your desire and your relationship -- but only through investing the time and energy needed, can you reach real change.
A change that makes you feel good. A change that improves quality of life, reduces stress, anxiety and worry.
If you want to prevent or get out of a negative sex cycle -- now’s the time to do it.
If you apply today you’ll be well on your way to soon feeling like:
Sex is fun, pleasurable and you long to be intimate with your partner.
There’s no more shame or guilt about your sex drive - only ease.
You know exactly what to do to get yourself going and what you like in bed
Don’t wait 6 months or a year - you deserve to desire sex, you deserve to enjoy sex, and you deserve to have the relationship with sex and your partner that you want.
The earlier you start, the easier and more swift the change will be.
With access to the all the knowledge and the best tools provided by the curriculum -- and professional coaching and personalized, confidential feedback on exercises for 9 months —
Increase sex drive and intimacy
Reduce pressure & stress surrounding sex
Create the sex life and relationship you deserve
Feel good about yourself and your sex drive
You can continue doing what you’ve done before – and hope your sex drive comes back on its own. It's definitely an option, but it's one that leaves you powerless.
Or you take 9 months of your life and really learn how sex drives works – so sex feels pleasurable, fun and intimate, instead of the stress-inducing duty it’s turned into.
Getting your desire back isn’t like pushing a button -- it’s comprehensive work but it’s work that is well worth it. The program has been designed to help you understand your sex drive, increase it and then maintain it. This is why it’s not a quick program, because it's not a band-aid solution. It's the whole, holistic solution and approach. 9 months is needed to lay the groundwork for a great sex life and relationship -- not just for an initial increase of desire!
Nope! The monthly Q&A sessions are a great way to learn from others, be motivated by their progress, and to normalise your feelings and challenges. But because the Q&A sessions aren't live, you won't have to talk about your private feelings and thoughts on the call. You'll submit a question or concern ahead of time, and have it addressed by me. I won't mention your name on the call, so it's very anonymous. And the Q&A sessions are only 1 of 3 ways of getting support and coaching.
Re:Desire is a program for people with low desire, meaning all the support features are exclusively for the partner with low desire. However, the program has been designed with the intent that you’ll be including your partner in various exercises in the curriculum. Whether you do this right from the beginning, or a few weeks or months into the program is, of course, completely up to you.
No. Most of the exercises and tools you’re given are done using worksheets to help you reflect on sexual obstacles and negative thought patterns -- as well as turn-ons and things you enjoy about sex. Couples exercises often center around talking about sex, emotions and intimacy. There are a few exercises that are about touch and desire but the exercises are never designed to “make” you have sex. Re:Desire is all about reducing the pressure a lot of people feel to have sex -- not adding to it!