The only climax you desire right now is the bedgasm you have when you exhaustedly climb into bed for sleep.
You love sex - for the first few weeks or months at the start of a relationship. And then never again (please).
You’d rather do the laundry than have sex, and when you and your partner do get down to business, you push through with all the enthusiasm of loading the washing machine. Just another thing on your endless to-do list.
Friday’s big work meeting. The milk you forgot to grab from the shops. If it’s time to fake your orgasm now. All things you worry about during sex because you’re just not present.
You feel like your sex life is somehow broken. You rarely fancy it, your sex drive is low, and you don’t understand why.
Every time your partner touches you, you secretly pray it won’t lead to sex. You might even feel more like companions than lovers.
You’ve tried everything. Sexy lingerie. Romantic dinners. Fancy massage oils. All the sex toys (yes, even that yoni egg Gwyneth Paltrow recommended), all in the hopes of finding that illusive button that says you’re ‘ready and excited’ for sex.
But nothing works.
You love your partner more than anything — but Netflix just dropped your favourite show, and (if you’re honest) you’d much rather curl up in front of the TV (without your partner’s wandering hands anywhere near you, thanks!)...It might even feel like you could go the rest of your life without sex.
You want answers. You want to understand why.
But more than that, you want to get your sex drive back.
Imagine slipping between the sheets together after the kids have gone to bed because the last thing on both your minds is sleep. You want sex. Glorious, touch-me-again sex.
No more scheduling sex. No more ‘birthdays and anniversaries only’ sex. No more keeping track of “the last time you did it”. Because sex is part of your life again. A moment to be grabbed, anytime.
You get what turns you on. You’re friends with your body again. No more anxiety and shame about sex. Just pleasure and peace. The way it should be.
“Is it even possible to get my sex drive back? I’m afraid I’m broken somehow.”
“Sex just stresses me out and gives me anxiety … how can I get out of my head?“
“Why did I enjoy sex in the beginning… and now I never want it anymore?”
Re:Desire is the sex education you wish you had at school—one where the only homework is bringing sexual pleasure and desire back into your home.
Because helping solve sex problems is what couples all over the world seek me out for. And I’d love to help you too.
I’m a social worker, trained therapist and clinical sexologist with a Master of Science in Sexology.
My life's work is getting you out of your head and back in your body so you can enjoy sex, confidently connect to your sexuality, and relish melted marshmallow intimacy in your relationship again.
And I help you do it all through Re:Desire. My 9-month, private-practice-wait-list-skipping digital program.
I don’t want you to have to wait for help. This is sex drive support on demand.
You don’t have to be an expert in sexological science, coaching or psychotherapy tools. That’s where I come in handy. All you need to bring to the table is desire. A real desire to love your sex life again.
A 9-month online support program for people of all genders with a low sex drive.
An intimately designed 5-phase path to pressure-free, shame-free, stress-free sexual desire.
Kick pressure and stress out of your bed and usher in butterflies-in-your-tummy desire for your relationship. Because you deserve it.
Video & audio lessons & lots of actionable tools and exercises (no-fluff guaranteed) all about how sex drive really works, how to deal with anxiety and stress surrounding sex, how to increase intimacy in your relationship and how to get your sex drive back. All based on sexological science and my extensive experience as a sex therapist and coach.
Re:Desire also contains bonus couples exercises to help you get closer to your partner, reduce conflict surrounding sex, talk about sex, and increase intimacy and desire.
All curriculum available to you on your podcast app of choice. This makes consuming the content in Re:Desire easier because you can listen to it on the go, or while doing the dishes. It's also the perfect opportunity to refresh your knowledge on all your favourite teachings and tools.
For 9 whole months I’ll be closer to you than your favourite pair of pants. Riding along in your pocket, answering questions, and helping you work through any and all negative thoughts and feelings about sex.
If you join Re:Desire, you can throw sex-shaped challenges at me on the free Voxer app, anytime (and I’ll get back to you every Tuesday, with a break every fourth week to integrate everything we’ve covered). This way, you get confidential support whenever and wherever you feel most comfortable talking about your private challenges.
This contact throughout your program is the kind a-ha moment triggering stuff that changes sex lives for good.
No need to try and fit arbitrary times into your schedule or keep a track of when I'm around. This is continuous and consistent support no matter what time zone you're in (and that’s kind of amazing).
9 months of bi-weekly personalized feedback on your submitted worksheets and exercises from me -- so you know you’re on the right track to increased desire & intimacy. This is where the magic between the curriculum and the 1:1 support really happens!
Submit your worksheets via a private form and receive a detailed video with feedback on them; things to tweak, how to solve challenges in your relationship or sex life pertaining to the exercises, or how to modify a specific exercise to better suit your unique needs.
This first phase is all about learning how sex drive works. With quizzes, worksheets and guided exercises, we map it all out so you understand what’s going on -- because you can’t get your desire back if you don’t know why it’s gone in the first place.
While laying the groundwork for increased desire you also get instant access to a quick daily exercise to boost your relationship throughout the duration of the program. The first phase ends with you choosing a personal path forward: tailored to your specific needs and difficulties.
Phase 2 is all about working with expectations surrounding sex, reducing sexual stress and learning how to be present in the moment.
You’ll work with thought patterns and feelings connected to sex and your relationship to really banish any and all obstacles that are standing in the way of your desire.
The powerful exercises in this phase will help you feel better about yourself, sex and your relationship – helping you create an environment in which your desire can come flowing back to you.
Phase 3 is the fun part – it’s where you explore your sexuality and body and work out what turns you on and how to create the sex life you want -- and deserve.
You’ll be figuring out which senses are the most important for your desire, what kind of touch you enjoy, what kinds of scenarios and ideas get you going, and what you find sexy and attractive about your partner.
It’s truly a transformational phase where you get in touch with what sex means to you and what you like sexually – in a safe space. So you and your partner can connect on a sexual level again and feel close.
When you’ve tried a whole host of exercises in order to remove obstacles and explore your sexuality -- it’s time to piece it all together.
This is where we get really specific on what’s needed moving forward: you create goals for your sex life and relationship, and create an action plan designed to increase desire & intimacy, while reducing pressure. A plan that's completely tailored to your own specific needs.
This is one of the most impactful and invaluable parts of the curriculum -- it really is a game changer in order for you to get your desire back and experience sexual intimacy.
In this final phase you’ll be focusing on how to make things even better, troubleshooting problems through 1:1 coaching (Voxer Hours) and creating a maintenance plan for the future.
And this is part of what makes Re:Desire so unique – because we focus on both getting your sex drive back and maintaining a great sex life and relationship. This way you’ll always know what to do in the future if you need to switch things up again.
This program isn’t just about momentarily increasing desire, it’s about understanding your sexuality and sex drive so you can use the tools in the program the rest of your life! With tools, exercises and support, you’ll figure out why you have low sex drive and work out what good sex means to you. By the end of the program you’ll know what you like sexually and you’ll be able to communicate it to your partner too!
Maybe you haven’t had sex in a really long time -- or just haven’t been feeling it lately while having sex. Wherever you’re coming from, your goal is wanting to get your sex drive back. Sex feels like something you want to prioritize (even if you haven’t for a long time and, to be honest, sometimes feel like you could go without it for the rest of your life). But you’re ready to experience that closeness and intimacy again. You want your partner to feel loved and attractive, and you really want to feel good about sex. You’re done with avoiding intimacy and sex and you’re ready to work on it!
Re:Desire gives you all the tools, coaching and support you need, but the only person who can do the work -- is you (with a little help from your partner, of course). By joining the program you’re committed to putting in the time and energy required of you to not only understand your sex drive and increase it -- but to also learn how to create and maintain a sex life and relationship you love and deserve. Just like other things in life that are important to you; you’ll prioritise the program and the life-changing work inside of it.
Re:Desire works best if you’ve previously experienced desire. Maybe you remember a particular time when you were younger, or perhaps your partner sent you swooning in the beginning phases of your relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to have experienced mind-blowing sex or ever have felt particularly comfortable about sex -- just that you’ve experienced desire at some point in your life.
This program is designed for those who are experiencing low libido but who want to work on it and are committed to staying in their relationship or marriage for the time being.
Re:Desire has been designed for people in monogamous relationships or marriages. This means exercises, coaching and feedback all emanates from this standpoint.
Re:Desire works with your desire from a holistic point of view. This means you work on a deep level and address things like: emotions, thought patterns and your relationship. In order to get the most out of Re:Desire it’s important any health struggles you may be experiencing are being treated or have been treated in the past. Re:Desire does not provide treatment for any mental health struggles as it is a coaching program -- not therapy.
While Re:Desire helps you with struggles and challenges in your relationship/marriage, it’s important you and your partner feel amicable towards one another. This isn’t couples therapy, which is why it’s important you have conflict resolution skills or seek help for this elsewhere. Your relationship by no means has to be “perfect”, but you’ll need a solid foundation to build from.
If you’ve previously been subjected to sexual assault and experience triggers surrounding sex, it’s important to seek help before joining Re:Desire. While we do touch on sexual assault in the program, Re:Desire is not therapy, which means the work needed to process previous experiences cannot be dealt with within the program. Any lingering triggers or PTSD from sexual assault need treatment from a mental health professional first.
If you can spare the same length of time it takes to make and eat your breakfast in the morning, then Re:Desire is the kind of easy breezy framework that’ll comfortably fit around your busy lifestyle (yes, even with a packed iCal, newborns, toddlers or door-slamming teens to contend with!).
Lessons are an average of 10-15 minutes long. Everything can be done on the go (on your schedule, not mine), and you’ve got 24/7 access to me in chat. No live calls or lessons to squeeze in.
I’ve had clients from 19-75+ on my books, so when I say age is just a number, I mean it. Aging can cause a dip in desire, but it’s possible to increase sex drive (even during menopause). As long as you’re willing and able to put in energy, and you’ve got a real desire to recover intimacy in your relationship, desire is totally possible for you.
A happy sex life doesn’t have an expiry date! Serious, long-term, committed relationships make up some of the best partnerships I’ve supported through Re:Desire. Some have spanned as long as 30+ years – so no, you definitely haven’t been together too long for this. My work is based on sexological science and experience. Your work is trusting the process. As with many things in sex, length really doesn’t matter!
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As a trained therapist, ensuring Re:Desire is a good fit for you is vital. If you’re a good match, you’ll get an email within 48 hrs.
Watch the free training video so you can make a confidently clued-up decision. When you're done, throw any and all questions over to me via email or text.
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2. All accepted applicants will get a personal invite to a “MIND BLOWING”, "100% relatable” (Re:Desire applicant words, not mine!) 1.5 hour free training video - or podcast, depending on your preference (so you know everything there is to know about Re:Desire before joining).
3. Your application is free and completely confidential. If you change your mind after applying, you can do that too (no hard feelings, promise!)
With access to the all the knowledge and the best tools provided by the curriculum --- and professional 1:1 coaching and personalized feedback on all exercises for 9 months —
Increase sex drive and intimacy
Reduce pressure & stress surrounding sex
Create the sex life and relationship you deserve
Feel good about yourself and your sex drive
You can close this page right now and pretend we never spoke about this.You can keep doing what you’re doing, and maybe things will change and you’ll get your sex drive back again. It’s a gamble, but it’s possible.
Or you can take the next 9 months to focus deeply on your relationship, sexuality and emotions so you can get out of your head and find body-tingling sexual pleasure again!
The choice is yours.
Getting your desire back isn’t like pushing a button -- it’s comprehensive work but it’s work that is well worth it. The program has been designed to help you understand your sex drive, increase it and then maintain it. This is why it’s not a quick program, because it's not a band-aid solution. It's the whole, holistic solution and approach. 9 months is needed to lay the groundwork for a great sex life and relationship -- not just for an initial increase of desire!
Nope! All support features are designed with care ensuring they are 1:1 experiences. Sometimes, I send out extra material based on themes coming up across the board for my clients in the program, but no details are ever shared about anyone and you never interact with others in the program.
Re:Desire is a program for people with low desire, meaning all the support features are exclusively for the partner with low desire. However, the program has been designed with the intent that you’ll be including your partner in various exercises in the curriculum. Whether you do this right from the beginning, or a few weeks or months into the program is, of course, completely up to you.
No. Most of the exercises and tools you’re given are done using worksheets to help you reflect on sexual obstacles and negative thought patterns -- as well as turn-ons and things you enjoy about sex. Couples exercises often center around talking about sex, emotions and intimacy. There are a few exercises that are about touch and desire but the exercises are never designed to “make” you have sex. Re:Desire is all about reducing the pressure a lot of people feel to have sex -- not adding to it!
Re:Desire is a program for people with low desire, meaning all the support features are exclusively for the partner with low desire. However, the program has been designed with the intent that you’ll be including your partner in various exercises in the curriculum. Whether you do this right from the beginning, or a few weeks or months into the program is, of course, completely up to you.
No. Most of the exercises and tools you’re given are done using worksheets to help you reflect on sexual obstacles and negative thought patterns -- as well as turn-ons and things you enjoy about sex. Couples exercises often center around talking about sex, emotions and intimacy. There are a few exercises that are about touch and desire but the exercises are never designed to “make” you have sex. Re:Desire is all about reducing the pressure a lot of people feel to have sex -- not adding to it!