Turn on your sex drive,
Tumble into bed together,
And make love in your relationship again.
(Zero judgement) is this your sex life right now?
The only climax you desire right now is the bedgasm you have when you exhaustedly climb into bed for sleep.
You love sex - for the first few weeks or months at the start of a relationship. And then never again (please).
You’d rather do the laundry than have sex, and when you and your partner do get down to business, you push through with all the enthusiasm of loading the washing machine. Just another thing on your endless to-do list.
Friday’s big work meeting. The milk you forgot to grab from the shops. If it’s time to fake your orgasm now. All things you worry about during sex because you’re just not present.
You feel like your sex life is somehow broken. You rarely fancy it, your sex drive is low, and you don’t understand why.
Every time your partner touches you, you secretly pray it won’t lead to sex. You might even feel more like companions than lovers.
If you’ve experienced any of these feelings in the past few months (or years)...
then even if you only read this sentence today, I want you to know: You are not broken, and there is a solution.
Keep reading, friend.
You’re not alone and it won’t always be like this.
You’ve tried everything. Sexy lingerie. Romantic dinners. Fancy massage oils. All the sex toys (yes, even that yoni egg Gwyneth Paltrow recommended), all in the hopes of finding that illusive button that says you’re ‘ready and excited’ for sex.
But nothing works.
You love your partner more than anything — but Netflix just dropped your favourite show, and (if you’re honest) you’d much rather curl up in front of the TV (without your partner’s wandering hands anywhere near you, thanks!)...It might even feel like you could go the rest of your life without sex.
You want answers. You want to understand why.
But more than that, you want to get your sex drive back.
From “not tonight, love” to “one more time, love.”
Imagine slipping between the sheets together after the kids have gone to bed because the last thing on both your minds is sleep. You want sex. Glorious, touch-me-again sex.
No more scheduling sex. No more ‘birthdays and anniversaries only’ sex. No more keeping track of “the last time you did it”. Because sex is part of your life again. A moment to be grabbed, anytime.
You get what turns you on. You’re friends with your body again. No more anxiety and shame about sex. Just pleasure and peace. The way it should be.
Say yes to sex
"Leigh has helped my partner and I work with a sex drive issue that had been going on for several years. She encouraged us to think outside of the box with discussions and exercises that we would not have thought of ourselves. It was a smooth process which allowed us to pinpoint the root of the problem. I would definitely recommend Leigh to anyone with similar issues, she is a great listener and very easy to talk to."
- “Lisa” 35’’
"It feels like we’ve become so much closer now. I never used to feel up to it, or want to have sex. Now it’s an activity we jump on after putting the kids to bed. And physical intimacy with hubby just feels nice and like something I want (not pressuring like it did before, because I “didn’t want to encourage” sex as I wasn’t in the mood for sex at all). And I suppose my husband’s always been nice-looking, but now when I look at him I think he’s super hot and as sexy as anything!"
- “Hannah & Christian” 31-35
"I never used to feel up to it. Now it’s an activity we jump on after putting the kids to bed"
"I would definitely recommend Leigh to anyone with similar issues"
You’re ready to (literally) fancy the pants off your partner again.
BUT YOU HAVE ALL. THE. QUESTIONS.
“Is it even possible to get my sex drive back? I’m afraid I’m broken somehow.”
“Sex just stresses me out and gives me anxiety … how can I get out of my head?“
“Why did I enjoy sex in the beginning… and now I never want it anymore?”
IT DOESN’T MATTER IF YOUR SEX DRIVE HAS BEEN GONE FOR 3 MONTHS OR 3 YEARS.
Together, we’ll get it back.
Re:Desire is the sex education you wish you had at school—one where the only homework is bringing sexual pleasure and desire back into your home.
Because helping solve sex problems is what couples all over the world seek me out for. And I’d love to help you too.
I’m Leigh, your trusted sex coach and therapist.
I can help you want sex again.
For 11 years (7 as a dedicated sex therapist) now, I've been helping people like you to flip the script that says no sex (or very little sex) means something is wrong with you and your relationship.
I’m a social worker, trained therapist and clinical sexologist with a Master of Science in Sexology.
My life's work is getting you out of your head and back in your body so you can enjoy sex, confidently connect to your sexuality, and relish melted marshmallow intimacy in your relationship again.
And I help you do it all through Re:Desire. My 9-month, private-practice-wait-list-skipping digital program.
I want this
I don’t want you to have to wait for help. This is sex drive support on demand.
You don’t have to be an expert in sexological science, coaching or psychotherapy tools. That’s where I come in handy. All you need to bring to the table is desire. A real desire to love your sex life again.
Support delivered straight to your favourite device, so you can start working on your relationship right now (or after lunch, or whenever you fancy learning really).
"The past week has felt pretty magical. I feel so close to my partner and everything, including sex, has felt really easy and effortless. We had sex! Twice! This is life changing work.”
- “Charlotte & David” 41-47
“I just wanted to say that what you do, and your program, really helps. Thank you so much! Things have gotten so much better, and we have probably never been as close as we are now, both physically and mentally.”
- “Anna” 26
"We have probably never been as close as we are now, both physically and mentally.”
"Everything, including sex, has felt really easy and effortless. We had sex! Twice!”
"Since I’ve been implementing the techniques our sex life has been much better. After 2 1/2 months, I’m finally experiencing much less stress and anxiety around sex and my desire level is much better than it was. This program has truly helped me!°
- “Maegan”, 33
"My biggest win was experiencing arousal so easily that we ended up having vaginal sex twice in a day. This was on the day we did the couples exercise. Our discussions during the day were more emotionally deep than I can ever remember them being. The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!”
- “Grant” 40
"Finally experiencing much less stress and anxiety around sex and my desire level is much better than it was"
"The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!"
Relight Your Fire.
Snuggle into sex with Re:Desire
A 9-month online support program for people of all genders with a low sex drive.
An intimately designed 5-phase path to pressure-free, shame-free, stress-free sexual desire.
All the tools and 1:1 support you need – all based on sexological science.
Kick pressure and stress out of your bed and usher in butterflies-in-your-tummy desire for your relationship. Because you deserve it.
Re:claim your sex drive
Re:Desire is commiting to good sex for life
Better Sex. Better Life. Better Relationship. For Good.
More Intimate Than Your Underwear
Private Teaching Portal With Pre-Recorded Curriculum
Video & audio lessons & lots of actionable tools and exercises (no-fluff guaranteed) all about how sex drive really works, how to deal with anxiety and stress surrounding sex, how to increase intimacy in your relationship and how to get your sex drive back. All based on sexological science and my extensive experience as a sex therapist and coach.
Re:Desire also contains bonus couples exercises to help you get closer to your partner, reduce conflict surrounding sex, talk about sex, and increase intimacy and desire.
Private Podcast Feed
All curriculum available to you on your podcast app of choice. This makes consuming the content in Re:Desire easier because you can listen to it on the go, or while doing the dishes. It's also the perfect opportunity to refresh your knowledge on all your favourite teachings and tools.
Unlimited 1:1 Text And Voice Note Coaching In Your Backpocket
For 9 whole months I’ll be closer to you than your favourite pair of pants. Riding along in your pocket, answering questions, and helping you work through any and all negative thoughts and feelings about sex.
If you join Re:Desire, you can throw sex-shaped challenges at me on the free Voxer app, anytime (and I’ll get back to you every Tuesday, with a break every fourth week to integrate everything we’ve covered). This way, you get confidential support whenever and wherever you feel most comfortable talking about your private challenges.
This contact throughout your program is the kind a-ha moment triggering stuff that changes sex lives for good.
No need to try and fit arbitrary times into your schedule or keep a track of when I'm around. This is continuous and consistent support no matter what time zone you're in (and that’s kind of amazing).
Private Feedback & Guidance Videos On Submitted Exercises & Progress
9 months of bi-weekly personalized feedback on your submitted worksheets and exercises from me -- so you know you’re on the right track to increased desire & intimacy. This is where the magic between the curriculum and the 1:1 support really happens!
Submit your worksheets via a private form and receive a detailed video with feedback on them; things to tweak, how to solve challenges in your relationship or sex life pertaining to the exercises, or how to modify a specific exercise to better suit your unique needs.
When you join Re:Desire, you get locked-bedroom-door levels of privacy and cotton-soft comfort
Give your relationship a chance to be sexy, stress-free and intimate again.
You need practical, positive, personal-to-you learning, instant feedback, and the kind of trustworthy support only an experienced sex coach and therapist can give.
The Phases to Stress-Free Sex & Intimacy
5
1
Laying the Groundwork For
More Desire & Intimacy
This first phase is all about learning how sex drive works. With quizzes, worksheets and guided exercises, we map it all out so you understand what’s going on -- because you can’t get your desire back if you don’t know why it’s gone in the first place.
While laying the groundwork for increased desire you also get instant access to a quick daily exercise to boost your relationship throughout the duration of the program. The first phase ends with you choosing a personal path forward: tailored to your specific needs and difficulties.
2
Removing Sexual Obstacles
Phase 2 is all about working with expectations surrounding sex, reducing sexual stress and learning how to be present in the moment.
You’ll work with thought patterns and feelings connected to sex and your relationship to really banish any and all obstacles that are standing in the way of your desire.
The powerful exercises in this phase will help you feel better about yourself, sex and your relationship – helping you create an environment in which your desire can come flowing back to you.
3
Exploring Your Sexuality
Phase 3 is the fun part – it’s where you explore your sexuality and body and work out what turns you on and how to create the sex life you want -- and deserve.
You’ll be figuring out which senses are the most important for your desire, what kind of touch you enjoy, what kinds of scenarios and ideas get you going, and what you find sexy and attractive about your partner.
It’s truly a transformational phase where you get in touch with what sex means to you and what you like sexually – in a safe space. So you and your partner can connect on a sexual level again and feel close.
4
Creating A Desire &
Intimacy Action Plan
When you’ve tried a whole host of exercises in order to remove obstacles and explore your sexuality -- it’s time to piece it all together.
This is where we get really specific on what’s needed moving forward: you create goals for your sex life and relationship, and create an action plan designed to increase desire & intimacy, while reducing pressure. A plan that's completely tailored to your own specific needs.
This is one of the most impactful and invaluable parts of the curriculum -- it really is a game changer in order for you to get your desire back and experience sexual intimacy.
5
Maintaining Desire & Intimacy
In this final phase you’ll be focusing on how to make things even better, troubleshooting problems through 1:1 coaching (Voxer Hours) and creating a maintenance plan for the future.
And this is part of what makes Re:Desire so unique – because we focus on both getting your sex drive back and maintaining a great sex life and relationship. This way you’ll always know what to do in the future if you need to switch things up again.
Re:claim your sex drive
Before Re:Desire we had tried marriage counselling, date nights, lingerie, massages (all the things you mention in your training), but none of it really worked. We did the couples exercise twice last week and I’ve never been so turned on in my life! I also feel that we are emotionally are in a really good place and that the pressure on me has lessened. It’s like we’ve remembered why we’re still together and why we’re still in love after all these years!”
- “Maegan" 33
Re:Desire was the best investment we ever made, thank you for helping us get our amazing sex-life back! I loved this course and engaging with my partner during multiple exercises. Re:Desire brought us so much closer than I ever thought possible. When I contacted you, I felt such intense shame and guilt because of my low desire that I couldn't help but cry every time I thought about sex. If I'm ever struggling with these feelings again, I have the tools and my partner's support to get to a better place. Thank you!
- “Louise", 42
"It’s like we’ve remembered why we’re still together and why we’re still in love after all these years!"
"Re:Desire was the best investment we ever made, thank you for helping us get our amazing sex-life back!"
Sounds like exactly what my relationship needs, but how do I know Re:Desire is right for me?
Re:Desire is the perfect fit for you if:
Re:Desire is not a great fit for you if:
You want to understand what’s going on with your sex drive or what turns you on
This program isn’t just about momentarily increasing desire, it’s about understanding your sexuality and sex drive so you can use the tools in the program the rest of your life! With tools, exercises and support, you’ll figure out why you have low sex drive and work out what good sex means to you. By the end of the program you’ll know what you like sexually and you’ll be able to communicate it to your partner too!
You really want to desire sex again
Maybe you haven’t had sex in a really long time -- or just haven’t been feeling it lately while having sex. Wherever you’re coming from, your goal is wanting to get your sex drive back. Sex feels like something you want to prioritize (even if you haven’t for a long time and, to be honest, sometimes feel like you could go without it for the rest of your life). But you’re ready to experience that closeness and intimacy again. You want your partner to feel loved and attractive, and you really want to feel good about sex. You’re done with avoiding intimacy and sex and you’re ready to work on it!
You’re committed to doing the work
Re:Desire gives you all the tools, coaching and support you need, but the only person who can do the work -- is you (with a little help from your partner, of course). By joining the program you’re committed to putting in the time and energy required of you to not only understand your sex drive and increase it -- but to also learn how to create and maintain a sex life and relationship you love and deserve. Just like other things in life that are important to you; you’ll prioritise the program and the life-changing work inside of it.
You’ve felt desire in the past (even if it was aaages ago)
Re:Desire works best if you’ve previously experienced desire. Maybe you remember a particular time when you were younger, or perhaps your partner sent you swooning in the beginning phases of your relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to have experienced mind-blowing sex or ever have felt particularly comfortable about sex -- just that you’ve experienced desire at some point in your life.
You’re pursuing other relationships outside of your relationship or marriage
This program is designed for those who are experiencing low libido but who want to work on it and are committed to staying in their relationship or marriage for the time being.
You’re single or you’re in a polyamorous relationship
Re:Desire has been designed for people in monogamous relationships or marriages. This means exercises, coaching and feedback all emanates from this standpoint.
You have ongoing mental health struggles or other illnesses that make everyday life exceedingly difficult - not just your sex life
Re:Desire works with your desire from a holistic point of view. This means you work on a deep level and address things like: emotions, thought patterns and your relationship. In order to get the most out of Re:Desire it’s important any health struggles you may be experiencing are being treated or have been treated in the past. Re:Desire does not provide treatment for any mental health struggles as it is a coaching program -- not therapy.
You and your partner resent one another or argue about everything
While Re:Desire helps you with struggles and challenges in your relationship/marriage, it’s important you and your partner feel amicable towards one another. This isn’t couples therapy, which is why it’s important you have conflict resolution skills or seek help for this elsewhere. Your relationship by no means has to be “perfect”, but you’ll need a solid foundation to build from.
Have PTSD or symptoms of PTSD due to sexual assault
If you’ve previously been subjected to sexual assault and experience triggers surrounding sex, it’s important to seek help before joining Re:Desire. While we do touch on sexual assault in the program, Re:Desire is not therapy, which means the work needed to process previous experiences cannot be dealt with within the program. Any lingering triggers or PTSD from sexual assault need treatment from a mental health professional first.
"This course has not only increased my sex drive with my partner, but it’s also helped increase my self-awareness on many different levels - a very unexpected but positive side effect!"
- “Vera”, 53
This program was such a HUGE help! I practice the strategies and exercises every day, which helps me slowly get out of my own head and more into my body. I can orgasm again when masturbating! For the first time in 53 years I have also learned to take note of what I am actually feeling, which means that I no longer experience anxiety for hours and hours.
- “Peter” 36-40
"Not only increased my sex drive but also helped increase my self-awareness on many different levels"
"...helps me slowly get out of my own head and more into my body."
If You’re Worried…
you’re too busy
If you can spare the same length of time it takes to make and eat your breakfast in the morning, then Re:Desire is the kind of easy breezy framework that’ll comfortably fit around your busy lifestyle (yes, even with a packed iCal, newborns, toddlers or door-slamming teens to contend with!).
Lessons are an average of 10-15 minutes long. Everything can be done on the go (on your schedule, not mine), and you’ve got 24/7 access to me in chat. No live calls or lessons to squeeze in.
YOU’RE TOO OLD
I’ve had clients from 19-75+ on my books, so when I say age is just a number, I mean it. Aging can cause a dip in desire, but it’s possible to increase sex drive (even during menopause). As long as you’re willing and able to put in energy, and you’ve got a real desire to recover intimacy in your relationship, desire is totally possible for you.
you’ve been together for too long
A happy sex life doesn’t have an expiry date! Serious, long-term, committed relationships make up some of the best partnerships I’ve supported through Re:Desire. Some have spanned as long as 30+ years – so no, you definitely haven’t been together too long for this. My work is based on sexological science and experience. Your work is trusting the process. As with many things in sex, length really doesn’t matter!
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Re:Desire includes all the benefits of an expertly delivered digital course PLUS powerful coaching.
With access to the all the knowledge and the best tools provided by the curriculum --- and professional 1:1 coaching and personalized feedback on all exercises for 9 months —
Re:Desire is the best way to:
Increase sex drive and intimacy
Reduce pressure & stress surrounding sex
Create the sex life and relationship you deserve
Feel good about yourself and your sex drive
"This course has helped us start talking about sex in an undramatic way after 20 years together."
- “Leanne” 30
"(After just a month in the course) wins include having enjoyable sex with my partner, feeling grateful for my partner and having fun with him."
- “Michael & lInda” 42-45
"After several years of having problems and a total loss sex drive, I found Leigh and no longer felt alone. She mixes theoretical knowledge of the body and mind with goal-oriented exercises in a great way, which helped me have faith. The sessions helped me get to know my body, how it reacts, and to not feel hopeless, that my sex drive is actually there. Above all, she helped me become friends with my body again!"
- “James”, 51-55
Your course saved our marriage. My wife and I had a marriage where she lost all interest in sex and intimacy and only saw sex as something that gives a quick oxytocin boost. No foreplay, no exploration of pleasure, no "pillow talk". There has been a metamorphosis! She now prioritizes her own pleasure and we're developing intimacy and desire together.
- “Billie", 30
"Your course saved our marriage"
"Above all, she (Leigh) helped me become friends with my body again!"
What’ll it be?
You can close this page right now and pretend we never spoke about this.You can keep doing what you’re doing, and maybe things will change and you’ll get your sex drive back again. It’s a gamble, but it’s possible.
Or you can take the next 9 months to focus deeply on your relationship, sexuality and emotions so you can get out of your head and find body-tingling sexual pleasure again!
The choice is yours.
I’m ready for deep work!
get me outta here
Re:Desire has been a GREAT help in every way possible and my situation with my husband has greatly improved. We had a strained relationship before joining the program. Still loving but distanced in bed and no romance. No touches outside of sex and irritation if anything seemed like initiating sex. Now there's more enjoyment during sex, less pressure and most importantly increased general wellbeing. We have reached a level of understanding and communication we couldn't have reached without your work. I am forever grateful for the program!
- “Marie”, 51
"Before Re:Desire I was completely uninterested in sex. My sex drive had gradually gotten weaker and weaker. We didn't talk about it. I had a hard time explaining how I felt and didn't know how to bring it up with my husband. He didn't say much about it either and it was there as an unresolved issue between us.
If we hadn't sought help we probably would have gone our separate ways. Instead, we've become closer than ever. I've gotten better at being in the moment, both when it comes to sex and at work. I even sleep better. Nowadays it's easy to trigger my sex drive! I've noticed that I actually have a sex drive and every morning I can turn that wonderful feeling on. Just walking around and feeling turned on is absolutely wonderful."
- “jen" 32
"Before Re:Desire I was completely uninterested in sex. We've become closer than ever and nowadays it's easy to trigger my sex drive!"
"We have reached a level of understanding and communication we couldn't have reached without your work I am forever grateful for the program!"
I Bet You’re Wondering
“WHY IS THE PROGRAM 9 MONTHS LONG - DOES IT TAKE THAT LONG TO GET MY SEX DRIVE BACK?”
Getting your desire back isn’t like pushing a button -- it’s comprehensive work but it’s work that is well worth it. The program has been designed to help you understand your sex drive, increase it and then maintain it. This is why it’s not a quick program, because it's not a band-aid solution. It's the whole, holistic solution and approach. 9 months is needed to lay the groundwork for a great sex life and relationship -- not just for an initial increase of desire!
“Do I have to tALK TO THE OTHERS IN THE PROGRAM?”
Nope! All support features are designed with care ensuring they are 1:1 experiences. Sometimes, I send out extra material based on themes coming up across the board for my clients in the program, but no details are ever shared about anyone and you never interact with others in the program.
“IS THE PROGRAM FOR COUPLES OR INDIVIDUALS?”
Re:Desire is a program for people with low desire, meaning all the support features are exclusively for the partner with low desire. However, the program has been designed with the intent that you’ll be including your partner in various exercises in the curriculum. Whether you do this right from the beginning, or a few weeks or months into the program is, of course, completely up to you.
“ARE THE EXERCISES IN THE PROGRAM SEXUAL IN NATURE?”
No. Most of the exercises and tools you’re given are done using worksheets to help you reflect on sexual obstacles and negative thought patterns -- as well as turn-ons and things you enjoy about sex. Couples exercises often center around talking about sex, emotions and intimacy. There are a few exercises that are about touch and desire but the exercises are never designed to “make” you have sex. Re:Desire is all about reducing the pressure a lot of people feel to have sex -- not adding to it!
Sounds good
Re:Desire is a program for people with low desire, meaning all the support features are exclusively for the partner with low desire. However, the program has been designed with the intent that you’ll be including your partner in various exercises in the curriculum. Whether you do this right from the beginning, or a few weeks or months into the program is, of course, completely up to you.
“ARE THE EXERCISES IN THE PROGRAM SEXUAL IN NATURE?”
No. Most of the exercises and tools you’re given are done using worksheets to help you reflect on sexual obstacles and negative thought patterns -- as well as turn-ons and things you enjoy about sex. Couples exercises often center around talking about sex, emotions and intimacy. There are a few exercises that are about touch and desire but the exercises are never designed to “make” you have sex. Re:Desire is all about reducing the pressure a lot of people feel to have sex -- not adding to it!