A 9-month, self-guided online course for people of all genders and sexual orientations with a low sex drive.
An intimately designed 5-phase path to pressure-free, shame-free, stress-free sex.
20+ short video & audio lessons, and lots of actionable tools and exercises (no-fluff guaranteed), created by a sex therapist specialized in low desire & mismatched libidos (me!).
In Re:Desire we address everything from how sex drive really works, how to deal with anxiety and stress surrounding sex, how to talk about sex with your partner without losing it, how to increase intimacy in your relationship, and (of course) how to get your sex drive back. So you can truly revel in sexual pleasure and want your partner again.
The lessons are on average 10-15 minutes and the exercises are all to-the-point - in order to help you have more and better sex in the least amount of time as possible. All based on sexological science and my extensive experience as a sex therapist and coach.
Re:Desire contains both individual exercises and targeted couples exercises to help you get closer to your partner, reduce conflict surrounding sex, talk about sex, and increase intimacy and desire.
We're all low on time and tapped out - which is why the full curriculum is also made available to you in a podcast app of your choice. This makes consuming the content in Re:Desire so much easier to fit into your day-to-day, because you can listen to it on the go, or while doing the dishes. It's also the perfect opportunity to refresh your knowledge on all your favourite teachings and tools.
Intimate direct access to the same voice notes I've sent my 1:1 clients in the previous live version of my online program Re:Desire. Some of my best-kept secrets on how to increase desire and intimacy *without* pressure, and stress.
18 (and counting!) short and sweet episodes (3-13 min) to be consumed in a podcast app of your choice, filled with expert coaching on creating a stress-free sex life
Each voice note episode is based on common themes experienced by my clients where I help them shift and move past shame and stress connected to sex.
When you join Re:Desire, you get locked-bedroom-door levels of privacy and cotton-soft comfort
Working on your sex life isn't always easy, and as Re:Desire is a self-guided course, it can be comforting to have a helping hand, guiding you through bouts of possible resistance - so you understand what's going on and what you can do to change it.
Access to a collection of 7 motivational audio recordings (4-14 min) to help you bust through resistance and lack of motivation if and when the going gets tough. So you can create truly stress-free sex and intimacy.
Get access to 7 questions from previous clients and my coaching on their queries as a series of stand-alone private podcast episodes:
What role does scent play when choosing a partner?
How can I overcome embarrassment when letting go?
How do I navigate sensitive conversations about sex?
How can I get past the alarm bells in my body related to sex?
How can I keep my partner motivated to do the couples exercises?
How do I stop defaulting to 'no' and say yes?
What do I do when my partner wants things in bed that makes our sex life worse?
This module is a crash course on sex drive and teaches you everything you need to know. It includes:
Common myths, how sex drive really works based on sexological science, and what to do when arousal is a challenge
A quiz to help you work out how your unique sex drive works
A couples exercise that guides you and your partner on how to talk about both of your sex drives and understand one another better.
This module is all about gaining a deep understanding of how your unique sexuality and desire works. Some of what it includes is:
Getting to know your personal circumstances needed in order to increase your sex drive.
A couples exercise on how to talk about your ultimate circumstances together with your partner and how to create them.
The number one way to reduce pressure and stress and how you can implement it in your relationship to instantly feel lighter.
An individual roadmap on how to proceed in the curriculum of the program.
This module is all about removing sexual obstacles. Part of it includes:
Information on common sexual misconceptions that lead to less sexual enjoyment, desire and intimacy.
How to create more realistic sexual expectations
How to become more present in the moment.
A step-by-step couples exercise you can use for life on how to approach intimacy and sexual touch in a non-threatening and intimate way.
This module covers everything you need to know about thoughts, feelings, physiological reactions and their connection to sex. Parts of it include:
How to deal with negative thoughts and emotions surrounding sex
How to break a negative sex cycle and create a positive one, so you can experience more intimacy and pleasure and less pressure.
A whole host of strategies on dealing with anxiety, shame & body confidence related to sex
This powerful module helps you connect with your sexuality. Parts of it include:
How to understand what turns you on and what you like sexually (even if you have no idea right now!).
An exercise on determining what you want your sex life to look like.
An exercise on how to connect with your body on your own and understand what kind of touch you enjoy and want.
This module contains several couples exercises that will help you and your partner connect sexually. Part of what it includes is:
An exercise on how to talk about things that turn you on - with pointers on how to express yourself, what to talk about, and how to set the mood right.
An exercise that helps you and your partner reignite that sexual spark
An exercise on how to talk about sex in a fun and flirty way.
This module is about tying it all together. Part of what it includes is:
The creation of an intimacy and desire action plan that ties it all together. It helps you set realistic and achievable goals and is tailoured to suit your unique sex drive and goals.
How to sync your action plan with your partner’s and move towards a pleasurable sex life and relationship that you both want and deserve.
This module is all about troubleshooting difficulties and problems and maintaining desire and intimacy. Part of what it includes is:
The creation of a maintenance plan in order to keep growing together sexually, even after Re:Desire ends.
Several resources to explore your sex life and create a deeper emotional connection with your partner.
This module is all about learning how to deal with a discrepancy in desire. Part of what it includes is:
An exercise that will help the partner with low libido feel less like they're "only wanted for sex", and the partner with more libido feel like they're attractive again.
Strategies for dealing with different sex drive styles and how to meet each other's needs even if these needs are different.
This module is all about helping you get your partner onboard with Re:Desire and to do the exercises with you. Part of what it includes is:
How to talk about your low desire with your partner. The how, when, where and what to say to help them feel good about going on this journey with you.
This couple's mini-course helps you desire sex again by exploring various kinds of touch and erogenous zones.
In this mini-course we cover the basics of genital anatomy, pleasuring techniques & different kinds of touch.
Also includes step-by-step couples exercises for both non-sexual and sexual situations - to ensure you infuse both your relationship and your sex life with more excitement again.
Right down to the time it takes you weekly and monthly, to the 9-month time-frame & the blend of individual and couples exercises.
Bite-sized audio files (or videos if you prefer to watch), that teach you the science behind long-term, sustainable desire, and pressure-free sex.
10 - 20 min
While commuting to work or doing the dishes at home, listen to 2 episodes on the private podcast feed.
The way I've designed Re:Desire is intentional.
I record these on Wednesdays but you can listen when YOU have the time and energy to absorb my guidance and information.
This is usually my client’s favourite part of the week - receiving expertly tailored guidance and advice on your unique challenges. No cookie-cutter models here, thank you very much!
10 - 15 min
Listen to my 1:1 coaching in the voxer app directly on your phone.
Your desire and relationship with sex undergo powerful shifts from all of the pieces combined; the worksheets you complete and the exercises you do on your own and with your partner, and the powerful program lessons.
5 - 10 min
Practise one of the actionable exercises in order to start changing your sex life.
The way I've designed Re:Desire is intentional.
Your desire and relationship with sex undergo powerful shifts from all of the pieces combined; our coaching conversations in Voxer, the worksheets you complete, my interactive feedback on your exercises, and the program lessons.
10 - 15 min
Send me voice notes or text messages via Voxer. You share a mix of your own thoughts and answers to questions I asked in the feedback video.
Feel more connected to your partner, enjoy physical intimacy, and make stress-free love in your relationship again (no time limit!)
Total time count for the week: Roughly 1 hour in total
And this is if you want to work within the course every week - you could also opt for 2 hours every month.
With my no-nonsense lessons & to-the-point exercises, Re:Desire helps take you from stressed out about sex to beautiful, fun, touch-me-again sex.
I record these on Tuesdays but you can listen when YOU have the time and energy to absorb my guidance and information.
This is usually my client’s favourite part of the week - receiving expertly tailored guidance and advice on your unique challenges. No cookie-cutter models here, thank you very much!
10 - 15 min
Listen to my 1:1 coaching in the voxer app directly on your phone.
I’ve been told my feedback is spot on and that I get my clients in an instant. My questions help you make connections you've never made before - and you’re always encouraged to respond on Voxer with answers to questions from the feedback sessions.
5 - 10 min
Watch the detailed feedback video on your submitted exercise for questions to explore, pointers on how to move forward, and general guidance.
Your desire and relationship with sex undergo powerful shifts from all of the pieces combined; our coaching conversations in Voxer, the worksheets you complete, my interactive feedback on your exercises, and the program lessons.
10 - 15 min
Send me voice notes or text messages via Voxer. You share a mix of your own thoughts and answers to questions I asked in the feedback video.
9 months access to private training portal
8 modules with 20+ bite-sized video lessons on the science of desire in long-term relationships
Couples exercises to create desire and intimacy, and to better communication
Downloadable PDF-lessons and exercises to keep for life
Access to A Taste of Coaching - short & sweet audio notes sent to previous clients with my best-kept secrets on how to create & sustain desire in long-term relationships
8 modules with 20+ bite-sized video lessons on the science of desire in long-term relationships
20+ actionable exercises, worksheets & tools based on science & experience
A private podcast feed so you can listen to all lessons and exercises on the go in a podcast app of your choice
8 modules with 20+ bite-sized video lessons on the science of desire in long-term relationships
Couples exercises to create desire and intimacy, and to better communication
Downloadable PDF-lessons and exercises to keep for life
Access to A Taste of Coaching - short & sweet audio notes sent to previous clients with my best-kept secrets on how to create & sustain desire in long-term relationships
8 modules with 20+ bite-sized video lessons on the science of desire in long-term relationships
20+ actionable exercises, worksheets & tools based on science & experience
A private podcast feed so you can listen to all lessons and exercises on the go in a podcast app of your choice
20+ actionable exercises, worksheets & tools based on science & experience
Access to A Taste of Coaching - short & sweet audio notes sent to previous clients with my best-kept secrets on how to create & sustain desire in long-term relationships
A private podcast feed so you can listen to all lessons and exercises on the go in a podcast app of your choice
Couples exercises to create desire and intimacy, and to better communication
9 months access to the private training portal + the private podcast
9 months access to the private training portal + the private podcast
Access to a collection of motivational audios to act as a helping hand and bust blocks of resistance
Access to a collection of motivational audios to act as a helping hand and bust blocks of resistance
Pay in full bonus: Save 134 USD on the total program fee when you pay in full
"Leigh has helped my partner and I work with a sex drive issue that had been going on for several years. She encouraged us to think outside of the box with discussions and exercises that we would not have thought of ourselves. It was a smooth process which allowed us to pinpoint the root of the problem. I would definitely recommend Leigh to anyone with similar issues, she is a great listener and very easy to talk to."
"It feels like we’ve become so much closer now. I never used to feel up to it, or want to have sex. Now it’s an activity we jump on after putting the kids to bed. And physical intimacy with hubby just feels nice and like something I want (not pressuring like it did before, because I “didn’t want to encourage” sex as I wasn’t in the mood for sex at all). And I suppose my husband’s always been nice-looking, but now when I look at him I think he’s super hot and as sexy as anything!"
You and your partner never talk about sex and the few times you’ve tried, it never goes very well.
You can hardly remember what it’s like to be turned on and you stress out as soon as your partner touches you.
Sex feels like a spousal duty and you feel shame and guilt for never wanting to have sex anymore.
You feel closer to your partner and enjoy sex together. It’s a source of pleasure - not pressure.
You’re no longer afraid or nervous about intimate contact with your partner - you want it.
You no longer feel ashamed or guilty about sex or your sexuality and sex drive. You feel normal.
"After several years of having problems and a total loss sex drive, I found Leigh and no longer felt alone. She mixes theoretical knowledge of the body and mind with goal-oriented exercises in a great way, which helped me have faith. The sessions helped me get to know my body, how it reacts, and to not feel hopeless, that my sex drive is actually there. Above all, she helped me become friends with my body again!"
- “James”, 51-55
Your course saved our marriage. My wife and I had a marriage where she lost all interest in sex and intimacy and only saw sex as something that gives a quick oxytocin boost. No foreplay, no exploration of pleasure, no "pillow talk". There has been a metamorphosis! She now prioritizes her own pleasure and we're developing intimacy and desire together.
- “Billie", 30
"Your course saved our marriage"
"Above all, she (Leigh) helped me become friends with my body again!"
I’m a social worker, trained therapist and clinical sexologist with a Master of Science in Sexology.
My life's work is getting you out of your head and back in your body so you can enjoy sex, confidently connect to your sexuality, and relish melted marshmallow intimacy in your relationship again.
And I help you do it all through Re:Desire. My 9-month, private-practice-wait-list-skipping digital program.
I don’t want you to have to wait for help. This is sex drive support on demand.
You don’t have to be an expert in sexological science, coaching or psychotherapy tools. That’s where I come in handy. All you need to bring to the table is desire. A real desire to love your sex life again.
This first phase is all about learning how sex drive works. With quizzes, worksheets and guided exercises, we map it all out so you understand what’s going on -- because you can’t get your desire back if you don’t know why it’s gone in the first place.
While laying the groundwork for increased desire you also get instant access to a quick daily exercise to boost your relationship throughout the duration of the program. The first phase ends with you choosing a personal path forward: tailored to your specific needs and difficulties.
Phase 2 is all about working with expectations surrounding sex, reducing sexual stress and learning how to be present in the moment. You’ll work with thought patterns and feelings connected to sex and your relationship to really banish any and all obstacles that are standing in the way of your desire. The powerful exercises in this phase will help you feel better about yourself, sex and your relationship – helping you create an environment in which your desire can come flowing back to you.
Phase 3 is the fun part – it’s where you explore your sexuality and body and work out what turns you on and how to create the sex life you want -- and deserve. You’ll be figuring out which senses are the most important for your desire, what kind of touch you enjoy, what kinds of scenarios and ideas get you going, and what you find sexy and attractive about your partner.
It’s truly a transformational phase where you get in touch with what sex means to you and what you like sexually – in a safe space. So you and your partner can connect on a sexual level again and feel close.
When you’ve tried a whole host of exercises in order to remove obstacles and explore your sexuality -- it’s time to piece it all together. This is where we get really specific on what’s needed moving forward: you create goals for your sex life and relationship, and create an action plan designed to increase desire & intimacy, while reducing pressure. A plan that's completely tailored to your own specific needs.
This is one of the most impactful and invaluable parts of the curriculum -- it really is a game changer in order for you to get your desire back and experience sexual intimacy.
In this final phase you’ll be focusing on how to make things even better, troubleshooting roadblocks and creating a maintenance plan for the future. And this is part of what makes Re:Desire so unique – because we focus on both getting your sex drive back and maintaining a great sex life and relationship. This way you’ll always know what to do in the future if you need to switch things up again - and how to future-proof your sizzling sex life.
Instant access to fluff-free video lessons and actionable exercises through the private teaching portal and private podcast feed.
Go at your own pace in the program or follow my recommended schedule for a leisurely pacing of the modules.
Download all lesson and exercise sheets for easy access once your 9 months are finished.
It can be nerve-wracking and scary to invest in yourself, your desire and your relationship -- but only through investing the time and energy needed, can you reach real change.
A change that makes you feel good. A change that improves quality of life, reduces stress, anxiety and worry.
If you want to prevent or get out of a negative sex cycle -- now’s the time to do it.
If you join today you’ll be well on your way to soon feeling like:
Sex is fun, pleasurable and you long to be intimate with your partner.
There’s no more shame or guilt about your sex drive - only ease.
You know exactly what to do to get yourself going and what you like in bed
Don’t wait 6 months or a year - you deserve to desire sex, you deserve to enjoy sex, and you deserve to have the relationship with sex and your partner that you want.
The earlier you start, the easier and more swift the change will be.
"This course has helped us start talking about sex in an undramatic way after 20 years together."
- “Leanne” 30
"(After just a month in the course) wins include having enjoyable sex with my partner, feeling grateful for my partner and having fun with him."
- “Michael & lInda” 42-45
If you can spare the same length of time it takes to make and eat your breakfast in the morning, then Re:Desire is the kind of easy breezy framework that’ll comfortably fit around your busy lifestyle (yes, even with a packed iCal, newborns, toddlers or door-slamming teens to contend with!).
Lessons are an average of 10-15 minutes long. Everything can be done on the go (on your schedule, not mine), and you’ve got 24/7 access to the life-changing exercises. No live calls or lessons to squeeze in.
I’ve had clients from 19-75+ on my books, so when I say age is just a number, I mean it. Aging can cause a dip in desire, but it’s possible to increase sex drive (even during menopause). As long as you’re willing and able to put in energy, and you’ve got a real desire to recover intimacy in your relationship, desire is totally possible for you.
A happy sex life doesn’t have an expiry date! Serious, long-term, committed relationships make up some of the best partnerships I’ve supported through Re:Desire. Some have spanned as long as 30+ years – so no, you definitely haven’t been together too long for this. My work is based on sexological science and experience. Your work is trusting the process. As with many things in sex, length really doesn’t matter!
"Since I’ve been implementing the techniques our sex life has been much better. After 2 1/2 months, I’m finally experiencing much less stress and anxiety around sex and my desire level is much better than it was. This program has truly helped me!°
- “Maegan”, 33
"My biggest win was experiencing arousal so easily that we ended up having vaginal sex twice in a day. This was on the day we did the couples exercise. Our discussions during the day were more emotionally deep than I can ever remember them being. The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!”
- “Grant” 40
"Finally experiencing much less stress and anxiety around sex and my desire level is much better than it was"
"The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!"
"Me and my partner have always been able to talk about everything, but we still experienced a slump when we had kids. I experienced problems with my body and sexuality after childbirth.
This course helped us push past our difficulties and blocks. A few months in sex feels nearly 100% exciting, fun and intimate again. Thanks for this course :) It's helped us a lot."
- "Karen", 31-35
"If I had known that this type of course was available online, I would have done this many years ago! Every hour I spent working through the program was worth every penny. I have recommended it to all of my best friends; I tell them how good it is, how great the structure is, and how fantastic the strategies are."
- “Lilly”, 44
"You are amazing. Every time I listen to your coaching I feel so good. I do love how you show me the different angles to look at the situation, it is always an eye-opener for me. I am so glad I am part of the Re:Desire Program."
- “Kristina” 41-45
"The course has helped me to understand and accept myself and my desire. It has been an eye-opener to join the course and I have so far learned a lot and found an acceptance with myself, which has led to increased desire".
- “Lawrence”, 51-55
"This program treats you with so much respect. You don't need to change who you are, the tools in the program are created to fit who YOU are."
- “Carly" 31-35
"When I joined Re:Desire I wondered if I might be asexual. After the program I feel more connected to my husband and I feel like we’re thriving as a couple.
There have been major strides with pleasure on my end and being open to trying something new. It’s resulted in us finding a miracle that makes me have an orgasm typically under 90 seconds. And that’s been amazing and worth the whole investment of the program on its own! I don’t even feel guilt or shame anymore if I need something to turn me on, and I am giving myself compassion for whatever I need. Thank you so much for all of your support through this."
- "John" 70
"Before joining Re:Desire we had little/no sex life - and I was always 'in my head' - performance focus. I wasn't connected with my partner which I didn't even realise before joining the programme.
Now there is less pressure, more intimacy and sharing - openness. I'm more tuned in to my partner. If you're thinking of joining Re:Desire - just do it - you will feel the benefits."
- “michelle", 48
Re:Desire is a 9-month course. Even if all of the strategies provided in the program are powerful in their own right - it's the sum of the process that makes the biggest difference of all. Because you don't just want to get your desire back for a month or two - you want to create life-long change. Because of this, by joining Re:Desire you're committing to the full process because the full process is what will change things in a deep and impactful way.
So, now for the legalese bit written by my lawyer:
By joining Re:Desire you accept our general terms and conditions for Re:Desire and you understand and agree that there is a strict no-refund policy for Re:Desire. Requests for cancellations and/or refunds will not be honored. Furthermore you agree to make timely and full payments of the fee even if you choose not to, or are unable, to complete Re:Desire, for whatever reason.
By enrolling in Re:Desire, you accept, agree and understand that you are fully responsible for your progress and we offer no representations, warranties or guarantees verbally or in writing regarding to your progress, personal growth, future sexual activity, intimate relationships or other such matters. We do not guarantee that you will get any results using any of our ideas, tools, strategies or recommendations, and nothing in the Program is a promise or guarantee to the Participant of such results.