Relight Your Fire.
Snuggle into sex with Re:Desire - the course starts as soon as you enroll!
A 9-month, science-based online program for people of all genders and sexual orientations with a low sex drive.
An intimately designed 5-phase path to pressure-free, shame-free, stress-free sex.
All the tools & 1:1 support you need TO CREATE SUSTAINABLE CHANGE.
Re:Desire Self-Study
Re:Desire Light
Re:Desire Full
The full 5-Phase Method to implement at your own pace.
Discounted for 24 hours only.
The full 5-Phase Method + monthly 1:1 support through voice-note coaching, to keep you accountable & supported.
The full 5-Phase Method + weekly 1:1 voice-note coaching + personalized video feedback on your exercises — so you’re supported every step of the way.
Three Enrollment Options
Choose the version that fits you best
All three include the full 5-Phase Method.
+ today-only bonuses
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Self-Study
Full
300 USD off original price - discounted 24 hrs only.
Partner Bonus: 60 Days of Weekly 1:1 Voxer Coaching Support
For the first 60 days, your partner will also receive weekly, asynchronous, private coaching with Leigh — personalised voice notes and texts each week, just like you.
This bonus gives your partner hands-on guidance during the most foundational part of Re:Desire, helping you both move through the early shifts of understanding, with clarity, confidence, and expert support
*Trial partner bonus availability will likely change after this offer.
The Free Training:
The Feel-Like-It-Framework
A science-based look at desire in long-term relationships - and a roadmap to getting it back, stress-free
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Use the clickable chapters in the video to jump straight to the parts you’re most interested in — like The Feel-Like-It Framework or The 5 Phases to Stress-Free Sex & Intimacy.
The myths
keeping you stuck
The 4-part Feel-Like-It-Framework
The 5 Phases to Stress-Free Sex & Intimacy
Plus, real-life examples of clients who have used the 5-phase process and gotten their desire back
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4.54 / 5 ⭐ average module rating
45 % feel noticeable relief already by Module 2
Less pressure, less anxiety — a calm that makes connection possible again.
Including less pressure, easier talks, more connection — and greater desire and pleasure.
90 % describe positive shifts by the end
And in ongoing coaching and testimonials, clients repeatedly share that they’re wanting sex again, enjoying it more, and feeling closer than they have in years.
People rate Re:Desire modules an average of 4.54/5 stars — with 94% giving 4 or higher.
The Numbers Speak for Themselves
I want this
- “Marie” 51
"Before Re:Desire I was completely uninterested in sex. My sex drive had gradually gotten weaker and weaker. We didn't talk about it. I had a hard time explaining how I felt and didn't know how to bring it up with my husband. He didn't say much about it either and it was there as an unresolved issue between us.
If we hadn't sought help we probably would have gone our separate ways. Instead, we've become closer than ever. I've gotten better at being in the moment, both when it comes to sex and at work. I even sleep better. Nowadays it's easy to trigger my sex drive! I've noticed that I actually have a sex drive and every morning I can turn that wonderful feeling on. Just walking around and feeling turned on is absolutely wonderful."
"Before Re:Desire I was completely uninterested in sex...We've become closer than ever and nowadays it's easy to trigger my sex drive!"
More Intimate Than Your Underwear
Private Teaching Portal With Pre-Recorded Curriculum
20+ short video & audio lessons, and lots of actionable tools and exercises (no-fluff guaranteed), created by a sex therapist specialized in low desire & mismatched libidos (me!).
In Re:Desire we address everything from how sex drive really works, how to deal with anxiety and stress surrounding sex, how to talk about sex with your partner without losing it, how to increase intimacy in your relationship, and (of course) how to get your sex drive back. So you can truly revel in sexual pleasure and want your partner again.
The lessons are on average 10-15 minutes and the exercises are all to-the-point - in order to help you have more and better sex in the least amount of time as possible. All based on sexological science and my extensive experience as a sex therapist and coach.
Re:Desire contains both individual exercises and targeted couples exercises to help you get closer to your partner, reduce conflict surrounding sex, talk about sex, and increase intimacy and desire.
Private Podcast Feed
We're all low on time and tapped out - which is why the full curriculum is also made available to you in a podcast app of your choice. This makes consuming the content in Re:Desire so much easier to fit into your day-to-day, because you can listen to it on the go, or while doing the dishes. It's also the perfect opportunity to refresh your knowledge on all your favourite teachings and tools.
Weekly 1:1 Text And Voice Note Coaching In Your Backpocket
For 9 whole months I’ll be closer to you than your favourite pair of pants. Riding along in your pocket, answering questions, and helping you work through any and all negative thoughts and feelings about sex.
If you join Re:Desire, you can throw sex-shaped challenges at me on the free Voxer app, anytime (and I’ll get back to you every Tuesday, with a break every fourth week to integrate everything we’ve covered). This way, you get confidential support whenever and wherever you feel most comfortable talking about your private challenges.
This contact throughout your program is the kind a-ha moment triggering stuff that changes sex lives for good.
No need to try and fit arbitrary times into your schedule or keep a track of when I'm around. This is continuous and consistent support no matter what time zone you're in (and that’s kind of amazing).
* Please note: support features will not be available during July, so we will be adding on an extra month
Weekly Private Feedback & Guidance Videos On Submitted Exercises & Progress
9 months of weekly personalized feedback on your submitted worksheets and exercises from me -- so you know you’re on the right track to increased desire & intimacy. This is where the magic between the curriculum and the 1:1 support really happens!
Submit your worksheets via a private form and receive a detailed video with feedback on them; things to tweak, how to solve challenges in your relationship or sex life pertaining to the exercises, or how to modify a specific exercise to better suit your unique needs.
* Please note: support features will not be available during July, so we will be adding one extra month in December.
When you join Re:Desire, you get locked-bedroom-door levels of privacy and cotton-soft comfort
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The Desire Dispatch + Motivational Audios
Intimate direct access to the same voice notes I've sent my 1:1 clients in the previous live version of my online program Re:Desire. Some of my best-kept secrets on how to increase desire and intimacy *without* pressure, and stress.
Short and sweet episodes (3-13 min) to be consumed in a podcast app of your choice-
They act as a comforting. helping hand, guiding you through possible bouts of resistance or lack of motivation - so you understand what's going on and what you can do to change it.
70-Minute Bonus Q&A Recording
Get access to 7 questions from previous clients and my coaching on their queries as a series of stand-alone private podcast episodes:
What role does scent play when choosing a partner?
How can I overcome embarrassment when letting go?
How do I navigate sensitive conversations about sex?
How can I get past the alarm bells in my body related to sex?
How can I keep my partner motivated to do the couples exercises?
How do I stop defaulting to 'no' and say yes?
What do I do when my partner wants things in bed that makes our sex life worse?
Exclusive to Re:Desire Full (& monthly for Re:Desire Light)
Exclusive to Re:Desire Full
"The past week has felt pretty magical. I feel so close to my partner and everything, including sex, has felt really easy and effortless. We had sex! Twice!”
- “Charlotte & David” 41-47
“I just wanted to say that what you do, and your program, really helps. Thank you so much! Things have gotten so much better, and we have probably never been as close as we are now, both physically and mentally.”
- “Anna” 26
"We have probably never been as close as we are now, both physically and mentally.”
"Everything, including sex, has felt really easy and effortless. We had sex! Twice!”
Take a Look Inside Re:Desire
This module is a crash course on sex drive and teaches you everything you need to know. It includes:
Common myths, how sex drive really works based on sexological science, and what to do when arousal is a challenge
A quiz to help you work out how your unique sex drive works
A couples exercise that guides you and your partner on how to talk about both of your sex drives and understand one another better.
MODULE 1
How Sex Drive Works
This module is all about gaining a deep understanding of how your unique sexuality and desire works. Some of what it includes is:
Getting to know your personal circumstances needed in order to increase your sex drive.
A couples exercise on how to talk about your ultimate circumstances together with your partner and how to create them.
The number one way to reduce pressure and stress and how you can implement it in your relationship to instantly feel lighter.
An individual roadmap on how to proceed in the curriculum of the program.
MODULE 2
The Desire Deep-Dive
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This module is all about removing sexual obstacles. Part of it includes:
Information on common sexual misconceptions that lead to less sexual enjoyment, desire and intimacy.
How to create more realistic sexual expectations
How to become more present in the moment.
A step-by-step couples exercise you can use for life on how to approach intimacy and sexual touch in a non-threatening and intimate way.
MODULE 3
Setting Expectations & Reducing Stress
This module covers everything you need to know about thoughts, feelings, physiological reactions and their connection to sex. Parts of it include:
How to deal with negative thoughts and emotions surrounding sex
How to break a negative sex cycle and create a positive one, so you can experience more intimacy and pleasure and less pressure.
A whole host of strategies on dealing with anxiety, shame & body confidence related to sex
MODULE 4
Thoughts, Feelings & Sex
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This powerful module helps you connect with your sexuality. Parts of it include:
How to understand what turns you on and what you like sexually (even if you have no idea right now!).
An exercise on determining what you want your sex life to look like.
An exercise on how to connect with your body on your own and understand what kind of touch you enjoy and want.
MODULE 5
Connecting With & Exploring Your Sexuality
This module contains several couples exercises that will help you and your partner connect sexually. Part of what it includes is:
An exercise on how to talk about things that turn you on - with pointers on how to express yourself, what to talk about, and how to set the mood right.
An exercise that helps you and your partner reignite that sexual spark
An exercise on how to talk about sex in a fun and flirty way.
MODULE 6
Couples Exercises to Increase Intimacy & Desire
This module is about tying it all together. Part of what it includes is:
The creation of an intimacy and desire action plan that ties it all together. It helps you set realistic and achievable goals and is tailoured to suit your unique sex drive and goals.
How to sync your action plan with your partner’s and move towards a pleasurable sex life and relationship that you both want and deserve.
MODULE 7
How to Create Your Intimacy & Desire Action Plan
This module is all about troubleshooting difficulties and problems and maintaining desire and intimacy. Part of what it includes is:
The creation of a maintenance plan in order to keep growing together sexually, even after Re:Desire ends.
Several resources to explore your sex life and create a deeper emotional connection with your partner.
MODULE 8
How to Maintain Desire
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This module is all about learning how to deal with a discrepancy in desire. Part of what it includes is:
An exercise that will help the partner with low libido feel less like they're "only wanted for sex", and the partner with more libido feel like they're attractive again.
Strategies for dealing with different sex drive styles and how to meet each other's needs even if these needs are different.
BONUS MODULE
How to Deal With Mismatched Libidos
Re:claim your sex drive
This module is all about helping you get your partner onboard with Re:Desire and to do the exercises with you. Part of what it includes is:
How to talk about your low desire with your partner. The how, when, where and what to say to help them feel good about going on this journey with you.
Bonus module
How to Get Your Partner Onboard
This couple's mini-course helps you desire sex again by exploring various kinds of touch and erogenous zones.
In this mini-course we cover the basics of genital anatomy, pleasuring techniques & different kinds of touch.
Also includes step-by-step couples exercises for both non-sexual and sexual situations - to ensure you infuse both your relationship and your sex life with more excitement again.
Bonus MINI-COURSE
Exploring Touch
"Before Re:Desire we had tried marriage counselling, date nights, lingerie, massages (all the things you mention in your training), but none of it really worked.
We did the couples exercise twice last week and I’ve never been so turned on in my life! I also feel that we are emotionally are in a really good place and that the pressure on me has lessened. It’s like we’ve remembered why we’re still together and why we’re still in love after all these years!”
- "Rosanna" 32
"Sex was some chore that I wanted to avoid. I felt like a bad wife and could feel the frustration and sadness from my husband. It had gone on for so long that a divorce was near. I finally realized that I was the one that needed to change and convinced my husband that if I got some time I could change, so I wanted a “foolproof “ method. Going to a sexual therapist felt so uncertain but this programme had a specific timeframe for when I should see a result.
As soon as I got the first introduction video I knew this was going to work. Leigh's approach helped me and my partner create more closeness in our marriage. Communication about sex has also improved, and I'm feeling more relaxed and happier overall and enjoying sex a lot more. Plus, we're doing it more often now which is great! It's been really eye-opening to learn about other ways to approach and think about sex, and I feel like I have a better understanding of myself and my partner's desires. If you're thinking about joining Re:Desire, do it!"
- “Louise", 42
"We’ve remembered why we’re still together and why we’re still in love after all these years!”
"I wanted a foolproof method (...) I'm feeling more relaxed and happier overall and enjoying sex a lot more. Plus, we're doing it more often now which is great!"
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"Leigh has helped my partner and I work with a sex drive issue that had been going on for several years. She encouraged us to think outside of the box with discussions and exercises that we would not have thought of ourselves. It was a smooth process which allowed us to pinpoint the root of the problem. I would definitely recommend Leigh to anyone with similar issues, she is a great listener and very easy to talk to."
"It feels like we’ve become so much closer now. I never used to feel up to it, or want to have sex. Now it’s an activity we jump on after putting the kids to bed. And physical intimacy with hubby just feels nice and like something I want (not pressuring like it did before, because I “didn’t want to encourage” sex as I wasn’t in the mood for sex at all). And I suppose my husband’s always been nice-looking, but now when I look at him I think he’s super hot and as sexy as anything!"
Your Life Before Re:Desire
You and your partner never talk about sex and the few times you’ve tried, it never goes very well.
You can hardly remember what it’s like to be turned on and you stress out as soon as your partner touches you.
Sex feels like a spousal duty and you feel shame and guilt for never wanting to have sex anymore.
Your Life After Re:Desire
You feel closer to your partner and enjoy sex together. It’s a source of pleasure - not pressure.
You’re no longer afraid or nervous about intimate contact with your partner - you want it.
You no longer feel ashamed or guilty about sex or your sexuality and sex drive. You feel normal.
I want this, please!
"After several years of having problems and a total loss sex drive, I found Leigh and no longer felt alone. She mixes theoretical knowledge of the body and mind with goal-oriented exercises in a great way, which helped me have faith. The sessions helped me get to know my body, how it reacts, and to not feel hopeless, that my sex drive is actually there. Above all, she helped me become friends with my body again!"
- “James”, 51-55
Your course saved our marriage. My wife and I had a marriage where she lost all interest in sex and intimacy and only saw sex as something that gives a quick oxytocin boost. No foreplay, no exploration of pleasure, no "pillow talk". There has been a metamorphosis! She now prioritizes her own pleasure and we're developing intimacy and desire together.
- “Billie", 30
"Your course saved our marriage"
"Above all, she (Leigh) helped me become friends with my body again!"
I’m Leigh, your trusted sex coach and therapist.
I can help you want sex again.
For 12 years (8 as a dedicated sex therapist) now, I've been helping people like you to flip the script that says no sex (or very little sex) means something is wrong with you and your relationship.
I’m a social worker, trained therapist and clinical sexologist with a Master of Science in Sexology.
My life's work is getting you out of your head and back in your body so you can enjoy sex, confidently connect to your sexuality, and relish melted marshmallow intimacy in your relationship again.
And I help you do it all through Re:Desire. My 9-month, private-practice-wait-list-skipping digital program.
I want this
I don’t want you to have to wait for help. This is sex drive support on demand.
You don’t have to be an expert in sexological science, coaching or psychotherapy tools. That’s where I come in handy. All you need to bring to the table is desire. A real desire to love your sex life again.
Support delivered straight to your favourite device, so you can start working on your relationship right now (or after lunch, or whenever you fancy learning really).
You’re done 2am Googling ‘I have no sex drive and it’s ruining my relationship’.
And you want actual help AND The right guidance, delivered by an expert on desire in long-term relationships (and not another Cosmo quiz about whether or not you should leave your partner!)
The Phases of Re:Desire
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Laying the Groundwork For
More Desire & Intimacy
This first phase is all about learning how sex drive works. With quizzes, worksheets and guided exercises, we map it all out so you understand what’s going on -- because you can’t get your desire back if you don’t know why it’s gone in the first place.
While laying the groundwork for increased desire you also get instant access to a quick daily exercise to boost your relationship throughout the duration of the program. The first phase ends with you choosing a personal path forward: tailored to your specific needs and difficulties.
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Removing Sexual Obstacles
Phase 2 is all about working with expectations surrounding sex, reducing sexual stress and learning how to be present in the moment. You’ll work with thought patterns and feelings connected to sex and your relationship to really banish any and all obstacles that are standing in the way of your desire. The powerful exercises in this phase will help you feel better about yourself, sex and your relationship – helping you create an environment in which your desire can come flowing back to you.
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Exploring Your Sexuality
Phase 3 is the fun part – it’s where you explore your sexuality and body and work out what turns you on and how to create the sex life you want -- and deserve. You’ll be figuring out which senses are the most important for your desire, what kind of touch you enjoy, what kinds of scenarios and ideas get you going, and what you find sexy and attractive about your partner.
It’s truly a transformational phase where you get in touch with what sex means to you and what you like sexually – in a safe space. So you and your partner can connect on a sexual level again and feel close.
4
Creating A Desire &
Intimacy Action Plan
When you’ve tried a whole host of exercises in order to remove obstacles and explore your sexuality -- it’s time to piece it all together. This is where we get really specific on what’s needed moving forward: you create goals for your sex life and relationship, and create an action plan designed to increase desire & intimacy, while reducing pressure. A plan that's completely tailored to your own specific needs.
This is one of the most impactful and invaluable parts of the curriculum -- it really is a game changer in order for you to get your desire back and experience sexual intimacy.
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Maintaining Desire & Intimacy
In this final phase you’ll be focusing on how to make things even better, troubleshooting roadblocks and creating a maintenance plan for the future. And this is part of what makes Re:Desire so unique – because we focus on both getting your sex drive back and maintaining a great sex life and relationship. This way you’ll always know what to do in the future if you need to switch things up again - and how to future-proof your sizzling sex life.
How It All Works
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Instant access to fluff-free video lessons and actionable exercises through the private teaching portal and private podcast feed.
Go at your own pace in the program or follow my recommended schedule for a leisurely pacing of the modules.
I'm in!
Download all lesson and exercise sheets for easy referencing in your day-to-day life
”This couples exercise has been great. It's the most physical connection / affection we've had outside of sex EVER and the most connected and relaxed any of that has felt to me in a LONG time. My husband is also enormously enjoying it and very aligned on progressing very slowly, very attuned to how I'm feeling”.
- “Maegan”, 33
"My biggest win was experiencing arousal so easily that we ended up having vaginal sex twice in a day. This was on the day we did the couples exercise. Our discussions during the day were more emotionally deep than I can ever remember them being. The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!”
- “Chelsea” 39
"The most physical connection/affection we've had outside of sex EVER and the most connected and relaxed any of that has felt to me in a LONG time".
"The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!"
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"This course has not only increased my sex drive with my partner, but it’s also helped increase my self-awareness on many different levels - a very unexpected but positive side effect!"
- “Vera”, 53
This program was such a HUGE help! I practice the strategies and exercises every day, which helps me slowly get out of my own head and more into my body. I can orgasm again when masturbating! For the first time in 53 years I have also learned to take note of what I am actually feeling, which means that I no longer experience anxiety for hours and hours.
- “Peter” 36-40
"...helps me slowly get out of my own head and more into my body."
"Not only increased my sex drive but also helped increase my self-awareness on many different levels"
Sounds like exactly what my relationship needs, but how do I know Re:Desire is right for me?
Re:Desire is the perfect fit for you if:
Re:Desire is not a great fit for you if:
You struggle to be present during sex
You really want to get out of your head and into your body again while having sex with your partner. In Re:Desire you’ll learn the nitty-gritty of what presence during sex needs to stick around - and hone in on simple practises that will help you do just that. Because no sex is good sex when we’re focusing on lour to-do list or wishing it was over already.
You avoid sex and maybe even general physical intimacy at this point
You want to change your pattern of avoidance but without forcing yourself to have sex you don't want to have. In Re:Desire, we work on helping you get to place where you want sex. No tools or exercises provided ever stem from helping you have sex you don’t want, or forcing yourself.
You want to understand why you have low desire and how your sexuality works on a deeper level.
You can’t get your sex drive back (at least not in a sustainable way), if you don’t understand what’s going on and why. In Re:Desire we lay a strong foundation of understanding, so you know fact from fiction when it comes to sex drive, pleasure, and closeness – and use tools dedicated to understanding how your unique sexuality works.
You’ve felt desire in the past (even if it was aaages ago)
Re:Desire works best if you’ve previously experienced desire. Maybe you remember a particular time when you were younger, or perhaps your partner sent you swooning in the beginning phases of your relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to have experienced mind-blowing sex or ever have felt particularly comfortable about sex -- just that you’ve experienced desire at some point in your life.
You’re pursuing other relationships outside of your relationship or marriage
This program is designed for those who are experiencing low libido but who want to work on it and are committed to staying in their relationship or marriage for the time being.
You have ongoing mental health struggles or other illnesses that make everyday life exceedingly difficult - not just your sex life
While we work on a deep level by addressing things like emotions, thought patterns and your relationship, this is not a mental health treatment program. This does not mean you can't get your desire back if you have ongoing mental health struggles - it simply means you will need to prioritize those first, before jumping on a course like this.
You and your partner resent one another or argue about everything
Re:Desire does help you with struggles and challenges in your relationship. However, it's important you and your partner have moments of feeling amicable towards one another because this course isn’t couples therapy.
Your relationship by no means has to be perfect, but you'll need some kind of relationship foundation to build upon in this program.
Have PTSD or symptoms of PTSD due to sexual assault
If you’ve previously been subjected to sexual assault and experience triggers surrounding sex, it’s important to seek help before joining Re:Desire. While we do touch on sexual assault in the program, Re:Desire is not therapy, which means the work needed to process previous experiences cannot be dealt with within the program.
You want to reduce the pressure, the stress, the worry around sex
You’re not alone. After you’ve learned the foundations of desire, we will dedicate an entire phase specifically on how to get to a place where the idea of sex is stress-free for you. Before you even get to having sex again.
I will never throw you into the deep end and tell you to have sex you don't want - it’s not what you need.
You mainly want to learn new positions and techniques
Re:Desire isn't about surface level stuff. While we do talk about different pleasure techniques and genital anatomy, as well as include exercises on how to make sex more pleasurable – in general, we're working on a completely different, deeper level here. B
Because if all you needed was a new position – you would probably have your desire back by now.
You're looking for a quick fix
Re:Desire is a 9-month course for a reason. It gives you all those tools and exercises you need to access your desire and have more and better sex. But if you aren't ready to dedicate any time or energy to the process – it won’t work. By joining the course, you’re committing to making the changes necessary, and just like other things in life that are important to you, you'll prioritize this course.
You'll have to have those uncomfortable conversations, you'll need to challenge yourself, and you'll need to put in roughly (only!) an hour spread out over a week.
But Re:Desire will help you turn those difficult conversations Into moments of intimacy and connection. And it will offer you comfort, and tools based on my extensive experience as a sex therapist specialized in low desire and accompanying pressure and stress.
You're in a monogamous relationship or marriage
Getting your sex drive back is possible, no matter what kind of relationship you're in. However, Re:Desire has been designed from the perspective of being in a committed, monogamous relationship. Therefore, exercises, tools and lessons won't be as applicable if you practise non-monogamy.
To SUM UP: re:desire is an undertaking - but it's an undertaking that will change everything if it'S the right course for you.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
You might feel unsure if now is the right time to commit to getting your sex drive back.
But the thing is -- there’s never really a perfect time for this kind of thing.
It can be nerve-wracking and scary to invest in yourself, your desire and your relationship -- but only through investing the time and energy needed, can you reach real change.
A change that makes you feel good. A change that improves quality of life, reduces stress, anxiety and worry.
If you want to prevent or get out of a negative sex cycle -- now’s the time to do it.
If you join today you’ll be well on your way to soon feeling like:
Sex is fun, pleasurable and you long to be intimate with your partner.
There’s no more shame or guilt about your sex drive - only ease.
You know exactly what to do to get yourself going and what you like in bed
Don’t wait 6 months or a year - you deserve to desire sex, you deserve to enjoy sex, and you deserve to have the relationship with sex and your partner that you want.
The earlier you start, the easier and more swift the change will be.
I'm ready for change
"This course has helped us start talking about sex in an undramatic way after 20 years together."
- “Leanne” 30
"(After just a month in the course) wins include having enjoyable sex with my partner, feeling grateful for my partner and having fun with him."
- “Michael & lInda” 42-45
Re:Desire has been a GREAT help in every way possible and my situation with my husband has greatly improved.
We had a strained relationship before joining the program. Still loving but distanced in bed and no romance. No touches outside of sex and irritation if anything seemed like initiating sex. Now there's more enjoyment during sex, less pressure and most importantly increased general wellbeing. We have reached a level of understanding and communication we couldn't have reached without your work. I am forever grateful for the program!
- “Harry”, 46
"Your course has been revolutionary! The last five years have been lined by private CBT therapists, dynamic psychotherapy, psychologists, a sex therapist, almost all natural remedies you can think of, and antidepressants… but your course is what’s really made a difference.
Now positive changes have really started happening, absolutely wonderful to be able to experience sex as intensely and beautifully as before. You’ve given me my life back, hugs."
- “jen" 32
"Absolutely wonderful to be able to experience sex as intensely and beautifully as before"
"We have reached a level of understanding and communication we couldn't have reached without your work I am forever grateful for the program!"
If You’re Worried…
you’re too busy
If you can spare the same length of time it takes to make and eat your breakfast in the morning, then Re:Desire is the kind of easy breezy framework that’ll comfortably fit around your busy lifestyle (yes, even with a packed iCal, newborns, toddlers or door-slamming teens to contend with!).
Lessons are an average of 10-15 minutes long. You can use the support features any time you want. Literally everything can be done on the go (on your schedule, not mine), and you’ve got 24/7 access to the life-changing exercises. No live calls or lessons to squeeze in.
YOU’RE TOO OLD
I’ve had clients from 19-75+ on my books, so when I say age is just a number, I mean it. Aging can cause a dip in desire, but it’s possible to increase sex drive (even during menopause). As long as you’re willing and able to put in energy, and you’ve got a real desire to recover intimacy in your relationship, desire is totally possible for you.
you’ve been together for too long
A happy sex life doesn’t have an expiry date! Serious, long-term, committed relationships make up some of the best partnerships I’ve supported through Re:Desire. Some have spanned as long as 30+ years – so no, you definitely haven’t been together too long for this. My work is based on sexological science and experience. Your work is trusting the process. As with many things in sex, length really doesn’t matter!
"Wins right now: we kept talking even though there were some rough spots and we have communicated our desire for sex when we are in bed, which has led to very intimate and fulfilling sex! I wish I had been willing to communicate years earlier"
- “Kaitlyn”, 53
"Needless to say, the sex was AMAZING! Thank you so much for helping me get out of my comfort zone. It's really having a great impact on our sex life, and relationship overall."
- “mindy", 53
"Needless to say, the sex was AMAZING!"
"Wins right now: very intimate and fulfilling sex!"
Frequently Asked Questions
While everyone moves through the program at their own pace, below is a sample schedule that shows you how doable it is to squeeze in the work and reap the benefits of being friends with your body again, knowing what turns you on, relishing in touching your partner, and feeling great about sex.
📅 Sunday: 15-20 min: Do one exercise in the evening + submit for feedback
🎧 Monday: 10-20 min: While commuting to work or doing the dishes at home, listen to 2 episodes on the private podcast feed. Bite-sized audio files (or videos if you prefer to watch), that teach you the science behind long-term, sustainable desire, and pressure-free sex.
✅ Wednesday: 5-10 min: Watch the detailed feedback video on your submitted exercise for questions to explore, pointers on how to move forward, and general guidance. I’ve been told my feedback is spot on and that I get my clients in an instant. My questions help you make connections you've never made before.
💭 Saturday: 10-15 min: Listen to my 1:1 coaching in the voxer app directly on your phone. I record these on Tuesdays but you can listen when YOU have the time and energy to absorb my guidance and information. This is usually my client’s favourite part of the week - receiving expertly tailored guidance and advice on your unique challenges. No cookie-cutter models here, thank you very much!
🥰 All week long: Feel more connected to your partner, enjoy physical intimacy, and make stress-free love in your relationship again (no time limit!)
❗Total time count for the week: Roughly 1 hour in total (and this is if you want to work within the course every week - you could also opt for 2 hours every month.
Re:Desire is a big commitment, both emotionally and monetarily, which makes sense as it affects such a core part of your life. But I also want the program to be available to as many as possible, which is why you can now enroll at three different levels (Self-Study, Light & Full).
You can also enroll using the payment plan option, with payments starting at 123 USD. for the self-study version
This way you can get started now with hopefully a more manageable payment and still get access to this transformative work within minutes.
Please also note I never want to put you in a financially difficult position, so if the program is without of your budget right now - I look forward to supporting you when the time is right!
Re:Desire contains:
- (Exclusive to Re:Desire Full) 9 months of weekly private and confidential feedback videos on exercises, so you know you’re on the right track to increased desire & intimacy. This is where the magic between the curriculum and the 1:1 support really happens! No other program offers this powerful perk and it's sure to give you lots of insight and support.
- Access to the private teaching portal for 9 months (+ a private podcast feed) with the full curriculum to understand, increase and maintain sexual desire and intimacy in your relationship.
- Weekly 1:1 Coaching for 9 months (Monthly for Re:Desire Light), with 24/7 text & audio messages via the free Voxer app. Submit your questions 24/7 and received my expert coaching and guidance during my office hours on Wednesdays (with a break every fourth week to integrate everything we've covered). This support element makes sure no questions go unanswered and that the program is tailored to fit your unique needs.
This support feature is designed for you to use it when you have the time. As such, you never need to attend any sessions live. Simply record your voice messages and send me texts via the free Voxer app when it suits you best (24/7, really), and receive my expert coaching on Wednesdays (day subject to change. Feel free to listen to my messages right away or whenever you have the time to.
This ensures frequent, convenient support that will save you time (you’ll be able to show up in Voxer whenever it suits you the best!). This also helps me provide the absolute best support possible at a frequency and in a format that works best for you!
Of course you can! But here's the thing - chances are you:
a) don’t actually need therapy.
Most people don’t need sex therapy to increase their sexual desire -- take it from a sex therapist and coach who has years of experience and a Master of Science in Sexology.
b) you're looking at a longer time commitment overall (on average 1-2 years compared to 9 months in ReDesire) + the hours you spend travelling to and from physical appointments, or trying to match up you and your partner's work schedules to fit a tiring Zoom call into your already packed day.
ReDesire takes on average only 1 hour of your time per week (spread out in 10-15 minute chunks - and that's all of it: exercises, lessons, coaching).
c) you're usually looking at a higher overall cost - and depending on whether you choose couples therapy or individual therapy, the final costs can range between 7500-30000 USD.
In many cases sex therapy is also not covered by insurance providers - so you'll likely be paying out of pocket for traditional sex therapy.
d) you’ll of course miss out on all the special and unique perks of Re:Desire: weekly 1:1 coaching for all your questions and queries through Voxer Hours, and weekly confidential feedback on all exercises with ideas for next steps and how to modify and tweak things, as well as the full curriculum in the private teaching portal consisting of lessons and powerful exercises (+ a private podcast feed so you can listen on the go). You can even download the lessons in full PDF format to keep going back as often as you’d like even after the program is over. In 1:1 coaching you can easily forget what your coach told you during a session, or what you learned throughout the duration of coaching. This won't happen here.
e) And finally - a lot of couples therapists have no professional qualifications regarding sex and sexuality difficullties. It's weird, I know, but it's often not included in their couples therapy education. This means you run the risk of receiving support based on their personal values and morals surrounding sex - instead of science. And if you happen to see a sex therapist - chances are they're likely not specialized in low desire. I'm a sex therapist and coach who specializes in low desire, mismatched sex drives and pressure and anxiety surrounding sex.
Your partner is invited and encouraged to join you in the private teaching portal and take part in the lessons and exercises. The couples exercises are a great way of connecting, creating intimacy and learning how to talk about sex. If you join Re:Desire Full, your partner will also get access to 60 days of Weekly 1:! asynchronous voice-note and text coaching.
"Before I experienced a lot of sexual anxiety, and my constant rejection of my partner and shutting down physically and emotionally when she tried to initiate was by far the biggest issue in our marriage. Our awareness of our issues, the reasons underpinning them, the years of emotional hardwiring that contributes to both our behaviors, has improved massively. Alongside that, we have more empathy and understanding for each other now, and are both far less likely to get upset when sex or intimacy doesn’t work out how we had hoped.
We also have action and maintenance plans to help us going forward, so a roadmap for the future. In between, we have found ways to make sex fun and enjoyable again (when it does actually happen), and there is much less tension in our marriage overall now.
- “Hazel", 57
“We were decent roommates before Re:Desire but sex was non-existent. After 30 years of marriage nothing was very intimate. It hung over our heads. My biggest difficulty was feeling resentful for everything I did for my husband and our home and therefore I just was not interested in sex. I decided to join because I wanted something more for our relationship.
Our relationship is much closer… more genuine affection with kisses and hugs. We are making time for sex in a playful way. I am asking for what I want and personal exploration is helping me determine what that is. Not just with sex but in our relationship as well. I am happy we have a sex life again and are having fun with it! Things now feel good, honest and real… a true communicative partnership including fun. 🤩
- “Ryan", 36
"Before I experienced a lot of sexual anxiety. Now we have found ways to make sex fun and enjoyable again. and there is much less tension in our marriage overall now."
"We were decent roommates before Re:Desire but sex was non-existent. Now we have a sex life again and are having fun with it! We have a true communicative partnership including fun 🤩"
"Me and my partner have always been able to talk about everything, but we still experienced a slump when we had kids. I experienced problems with my body and sexuality after childbirth.
This course helped us push past our difficulties and blocks. A few months in sex feels nearly 100% exciting, fun and intimate again. Thanks for this course :) It's helped us a lot."
- "Karen", 31-35
"Since I’ve been implementing the techniques our sex life has been much better. After 2 1/2 months, I’m finally experiencing much less stress and anxiety around sex and my desire level is much better than it was. This program has truly helped me!°
- “Maegan”, 33
"My biggest win was experiencing arousal so easily that we ended up having vaginal sex twice in a day. This was on the day we did the couples exercise. Our discussions during the day were more emotionally deep than I can ever remember them being. The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!”
- “Grant” 40
"Finally experiencing much less stress and anxiety around sex and my desire level is much better than it was"
"The last time I experienced truly amazing vaginal sex was years ago so thank you for that!"
"If I had known that this type of course was available online, I would have done this many years ago! Every hour I spent working through the program was worth every penny. I have recommended it to all of my best friends; I tell them how good it is, how great the structure is, and how fantastic the strategies are."
- “Lilly”, 44
"You are amazing. Every time I listen to your coaching I feel so good. I do love how you show me the different angles to look at the situation, it is always an eye-opener for me. I am so glad I am part of the Re:Desire Program."
- “Kristina” 41-45
"Whether you're close to 70 or 30 years old, it's never too late to start talking about sex - nor too early. This is a smart course that talks about the most important things: the relationship, communication, behaviors, our imaginations, fears, and self-perceptions. We laughed, reflected, had a-ha moments, asked each other questions, accepted, were curious, and gained so much wisdom that Leigh relayed in her beautiful and knowledgeable way."
- “Grant”, 42
"My sex life has improved dramatically since I started the program. As a man dealing with low desire, I felt like there was nowhere I could turn because it is such a difficult topic for men. I would not have been able to do this by myself. If you struggle with low desire, sexual anxiety/performance issues, join now! Thank you so much for your help! My wife and I are forever indebted to you."
- “Robert & Mary”, 66-70
"As a man dealing with low desire, I felt like there was nowhere I could turn... My sex life has improved dramatically since I started the program."
"This is a smart course that talks about the most important things: relationships, communication, behaviors, our imaginations, fears, and self-perceptions."
"The course has helped me to understand and accept myself and my desire. It has been an eye-opener to join the course and I have so far learned a lot and found an acceptance with myself, which has led to increased desire".
- “Lawrence”, 51-55
"This program treats you with so much respect. You don't need to change who you are, the tools in the program are created to fit who YOU are."
- “Carly" 31-35
"When I joined Re:Desire I wondered if I might be asexual. After the program I feel more connected to my husband and I feel like we’re thriving as a couple.
There have been major strides with pleasure on my end and being open to trying something new. It’s resulted in us finding a miracle that makes me have an orgasm typically under 90 seconds. And that’s been amazing and worth the whole investment of the program on its own! I don’t even feel guilt or shame anymore if I need something to turn me on, and I am giving myself compassion for whatever I need. Thank you so much for all of your support through this."
- "John" 70
"Before joining Re:Desire we had little/no sex life - and I was always 'in my head' - performance focus. I wasn't connected with my partner which I didn't even realise before joining the programme.
Now there is less pressure, more intimacy and sharing - openness. I'm more tuned in to my partner. If you're thinking of joining Re:Desire - just do it - you will feel the benefits."
- “michelle", 48
"(After 2 months) I’ve been feeling more comfortable regarding sex. Specifically, feeling less anxiety about the possibility that sex could happen. And we’ve had great sex twice this week without using meds and it was really intimate during and after. Big wins!”
- “Joni”, 35
"We're having sex more often and I'm finding real pleasure in it. When I joined the program I was sad and desperate and didn’t like the idea of sex at all. I'd tried seeing a therapist, toys, massages, scheduling sex, even going off my antidepressant medications. I really appreciate the opportunity and all the help in Re:Desire. Would definitely recommend it, it's worth it."
- “Ben" 42
"We're having sex more often and I'm finding real pleasure in it."
"We’ve had great sex twice this week without using meds and it was really intimate during and after".
"My partner and I joined Re:Desire, and we are making steady progress all the time. I just want to say THANK YOU. Thank you for helping me gain the tools to realise that my sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. So THANK YOU for helping me realize that I am a normal sexual person with my own unique side."
- “hanna”, 40
It feels really exciting starting this module now! I feel motivated, exhilarated and so ready to explore this part. And I know my partner will be really happy and interested, I can’t wait to share this with him! We’ve had a few conversations lately that show how we can talk more openly with each other now. It’s going to be fun to explore and try out new things in the bedroom together!
- “Tanya & Billy"
"I feel motivated, exhilarated and so ready to explore this part. It’s going to be fun to explore and try out new things in the bedroom together!"
"THANK YOU for helping me realize that I am a normal sexual person with my own unique side."
"This course gives you a chance to question and think about so many aspects of yourself - you gain a whole new understanding of both yourself and your partner! I'm really pleased with it! So far, the touch exercise is a big favorite! We get excited about it each time :) Through the course and getting to know your own and your partner's desire, you're given the opportunity to breathe life into your relationship."
- “Maegan" 33
Re:Desire was the best investment we ever made, thank you for helping us get our amazing sex-life back! I loved this course and engaging with my partner during multiple exercises. Re:Desire brought us so much closer than I ever thought possible. When I contacted you, I felt such intense shame and guilt because of my low desire that I couldn't help but cry every time I thought about sex. If I'm ever struggling with these feelings again, I have the tools and my partner's support to get to a better place. Thank you!
- “Louisa & Agnes", 31-35
"The touch exercise is a big favorite! We get excited about it each time :) "
"Re:Desire was the best investment we ever made, thank you for helping us get our amazing sex-life back!"
"I felt" “broken” because he wanted intimacy (sex to him), and I wanted intimacy without the sex part. We had tried marriage counseling a couple times, but were never able to come to a resolution. Your positivity and encouragement have been a blessing, and we are very grateful.
The exercises and your voice notes brought us together on the whole subject, and although extremely difficult in some areas, it helped us to talk about things we had never verbalized. We were better able to understand where we were each coming from. We talked through, honestly, where some of our deepest feelings had been misunderstood. It helped us to be more vulnerable, and open about our relationship and our habits. My husband was unaware of how he was making me feel pressure and stress, and he worked hard to show me that wasn’t his intention, but that he loved me. He wanted to be close, but I was shutting him out."
- “Lilly”,44
"I have started to feel less pressure and stress around sex. I turn my focus solely to how I can enjoy sex more. I am not faking any more, during sex I really try to enjoy it.
For the first time in our life we have started to talk about sex, what we like and what we do not like. The frequency of the sex is not improved yet but for sure the quality is increased. I have an orgasm most times we have sex.
Joining Re-Desire is one of the best decision I have ever made. After 45 years I have started to enjoy sex. The exercises and Leigh's advice helped a lot to ease the process and remove the stress around this subject. Leigh's approach is always very calming, re-assuring and encouraging."
- “Belinda", 65
"After 45 years I have started to enjoy sex"
"My husband was unaware of how he was making me feel pressure and stress. The exercises (...) brought us together on the whole subject"
Re:Desire is a 9-month course. Even if all of the strategies provided in the program are powerful in their own right - it's the sum of the process that makes the biggest difference of all. Because you don't just want to get your desire back for a month or two - you want to create life-long change. Because of this, by joining Re:Desire you're committing to the full process because the full process is what will change things in a deep and impactful way.
So, now for the legalese bit written by my lawyer:
By joining Re:Desire you accept our general terms and conditions for Re:Desire and you understand and agree that there is a strict no-refund policy for Re:Desire. Requests for cancellations and/or refunds will not be honored. Furthermore you agree to make timely and full payments of the fee even if you choose not to, or are unable, to complete Re:Desire, for whatever reason.
By enrolling in Re:Desire, you accept, agree and understand that you are fully responsible for your progress and we offer no representations, warranties or guarantees verbally or in writing regarding to your progress, personal growth, future sexual activity, intimate relationships or other such matters. We do not guarantee that you will get any results using any of our ideas, tools, strategies or recommendations, and nothing in the Program is a promise or guarantee to the Participant of such results.