Feeling like your partner's caresses make you feel loved, instead of stressed out
Even feeling giddy with hope thinking about the possibility of desiring sex soon again...
Looking at your partner and being hit by a jolt of appreciation instead of annoyance.
Because those are real-life results my clients experience once they’ve cracked the code on how to want to want sex.
- “Cheyenne”, 40
"Sex used to be stressful and felt obligatory. This is a good starter program to begin shifting sex beliefs! I like the step-by-step step guidance on how to think in ways that make sex more enjoyable. It also gave me a clear framework on how to talk to my husband about what is holding me back. He is now more understanding about my point of view and our sex is more relaxed and fun!
"Our sex is more relaxed and fun!"
And when you want to want sex, your efforts to increase desire are much likelier to work - because you want them to work (forget having sex to just get it over with!)
Your partner’s kisses and caresses feel more like an invitation than a demand - because you’re open to the idea of possibly wanting sex
This breeds less resentment which makes you want to share more intimate, slow hugs -- and thus, non-sexual intimacy abounds
Because it will help you approach sex from a place of willingness - not duty.
And this is how we take the first step towards long-lasting, healthy change.
It uncovers the hidden, less talked about step before getting your sex drive back: creating a desire for change.
...and finally feel like you just might just want to want to rip their clothes off sometime soon in the future!
Why you have to help yourself want to want sex before you can actually want sex (and no, it’s not just me being unnecessarily wordy, it’s a real thing!)
How our mind works and what that means for your sex life and desire
How our thoughts and beliefs affect the way we feel about sex
What's needed in order to change deep-seated beliefs
The foundations of how desire in long relationships actually works
The top 4 things you usually believe when you don’t want to want sex (and what’s actually true)
The top perspective shifts you need in order to want to want sex again (and how to create these perspective shifts so you can finally feel like you might just want to want sex with your partner again)
Unpack what's going on underneath the surface in order to understand why you don't want sex anymore
Questions based on my years of experience as a sex therapist and coach specialized in low desire that help you pinpoint common deep-seated beliefs that can be shifted in order to experience true, long-lasting change
Several questions focused on the practical, tangible changes that can be made in order to get to a place where you desire to desire sex
How can I find more pleasure in giving my partner pleasure?
How can I tackle the "uphill battle" to get in the mood for sex?
I used to be more sexual, but now sex is so boring. How can I feel more excited about sex and bring it up with my partner so I don't hurt them?
What do I do when my desire is lost because of actions from my spouse, but they are upset and feel rejected about it when I bring it up?
I have physical ailments that make some sexual acts difficult for me. How can I deal with this?
My partner gets turned on much faster than me, which makes me back away altogether. What can I do?
How can I feel desire when I get turned off by stressful thoughts as soon as my partner touches me?
Everyone learns in different ways and to make it super simple to get the most out of this private podcast training, you'll be receiving the full transcript along with the audio training.
This way you can easily refresh yourself on your biggest a-ha moments and key takeaways. Or you can read the transcript if listening to a podcast isn't your thing!
For 11 years (7 as a dedicated sex therapist) now, I've been helping people like you to flip the script that says no sex (or very little sex) means something is wrong with you and your relationship.
I’m a social worker, trained therapist and clinical sexologist with a Master of Science in Sexology.
My life's work is getting you out of your head and back in your body so you can enjoy sex, confidently connect to your sexuality, and relish melted marshmallow intimacy in your relationship again.
Just the idea of sex with your partner feels stressful and pressuring
Your partner has way more desire than you (sometimes it may even feel like it's the only thing they want!)
You want to ease back into an active sex life without pushing yourself out of your comfort zone too hard too fast
You avoid sex and general physical intimacy for fear of your partner trying to initiate sex
You want to get to a place where you feel even just the tiniest bit more positive about sex
You know things need to change in order for you to desire sex again
You don’t want to want sex
You dislike everything about your partner and have fallen out of love with them
You’re not ready or willing to look at what’s going on underneath the surface