Sex And Emotions: Quotes To Increase Intimacy Between You And Your Partner

One of the keys to sexual well-being and true intimacy in a relationship is emotional connection. If you’re looking for ways to increase intimacy – the following sex and emotions quotes will help you get there.

As a sex therapist, I’m trained in helping people create better relationships and more fulfilling sex lives – free of stress, anguish and shame.

One important factor in having a happy relationship is strengthening your emotional bond. Another important ingredient is healthy communication – about everything – even sex.

Talking about sex and creating more emotional intimacy might be something you want to do – but don’t really know how to.

Maybe you want to talk about sex, but don’t know what to talk about.

Perhaps you want to experience more intimacy, but don’t really know how to create it.

Especially after having lived together for years or decades, it can be challenging to keep intimacy alive.

‘Intimate Q&A’ consists of an exercise containing 27 pairs of quotes and questions. It helps with your emotional bond and takes the guessing game out of what to talk about and how to get closer. This makes it easier to talk about sex as the questions have already been created for you by an expert, (me).

All quotes and questions elicit important emotions and get you to communicate about them – helping push you out of your comfort zone, so you can grow, deepen your bond and be more intimate.

For a full set of instructions and all of the quotes and questions, download the free guide here.

increase intimacy with Sex And Emotions Quotes

The exercise consists of 27 quotes and questions. Each quote has either been chosen because it’s thought-provoking or because it elicits a specific emotion. In order to increase intimacy in your relationship, it’s important to follow the quotes and questions in the order they appear.

1. Set aside an hour for the exercise and make sure to remove any distractions by muting your mobile phones.

    

2. If you feel like it – create a nice atmosphere. It’s definitely not a requirement, but can help you to feel more at ease when opening up to one another.

3. Make sure you and your partner are seated to you can see each other. Facial expressions are an important part of how we show emotion and also of how we show empathy.

4. Take turns reading the following quotes and questions out loud to one another. Some questions may only take a minute to answer and others might take a fair bit of time. There’s no right or wrong amount of time – as long as you’re answering the questions truthfully – go at the speed you’d like.

Sex And Emotions Quotes – Part 1

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“If you don’t laugh during sex at least once, you’re having sex with the wrong person.”

― Unknown

Question

Is humour a part of sex for you?

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Quote

“That’s what Jamie didn’t understand: it was never just sex. Even the fastest, dirtiest, most impersonal screw was about more than sex. It was about connection.It was about looking at another human being and seeing your own loneliness and neediness reflected back. It was recognising that together you had the power to temporarily banish that sense of isolation. It was about experiencing what it was to be human at the basest, most instinctive level. How could that be described as just anything?”

― Emily Maguire, Taming the Beast

Question

Is it true that all sex is about connection? Can sex sometimes be selfish and devoid of connection – if so, how?

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“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”

― Aristotle

Question

Do you find it difficult to express your anger in a constructive way? If so, what happens to make it difficult?

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Quote

“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.”

― Jonathan Safran Foer

 

Question

In what ways do you, or have you, tried to push negative feelings away? How do you believe this has impacted you over time?

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Quote

“I write about sex because often it feels like the most important thing in the world”

― Jeanette Winterston

 

Question

How important is sex to you?

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Quote

“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.”

― Marshall B. Rosenberg

 

Question

Do you agree that anger is about needs not being fulfilled?

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Quote

“People keep telling me that life goes on, but to me that’s the saddest part.”

― Unknown

Question

How does this quote make you feel? Why?

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Sex And Emotions Quotes – Part 2

Quote

“Anger ventilated often hurries toward forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge. ”

― Edward Bulwer-Lytton

 

Question

Tell me about a time when you kept your anger to yourself, and looking back, you wish you hadn’t.

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Quote

“Anyone who is observant, who discovers the person they have always dreamed of, knows that sexual energy comes into play before sex even takes place. The greatest pleasure isn’t sex, but the passion with which it is practiced. When the passion is intense, then sex joins in to complete the dance, but it is never the principal aim.”

― Paulo Coelho

 

Question

In your opinion, what is the aim: to feel sexual energy or to have sex?

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Quote

“Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water.”

― Christopher Morley

 

Question

When was the last time you cried and why?

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Quote

“We need never be ashamed of our tears.”

― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations

 

Question

When did you last see me cry?

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Quote

“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”

― Oscar Wilde

Question

Do you agree that sex is about power? If so, have you ever used this power to your advantage?

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Quote

“Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.”

― Eckhart Tolle

Question

Is this true?

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Quote

“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them. ”

― Thom York

 

Question

Is it important to you to feel like we’re a part of each other during sex? Can you think of time when this has happened?

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Sex And Emotions Quotes – Part 3

Quote

“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

― Brené Brown

 

Question

Do you believe everyone has a little dark inside of them? Have you seen my darkness?

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Quote

“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”

― Brené Brown

Question

How could you get more vulnerable with me? What are some ways we can be more vulnerable with each other?

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Quote

“Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry. ”

― Lyman Abbott

 

Question

What did you learn about anger from your parents?

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Quote

“Sex is like air; it’s not important unless you aren’t getting any.”

― Unknown

 

Question

When is sex more important to you: when it’s an issue – or when it’s working?

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Quote

“In my sex fantasy, nobody ever loves me for my mind.”

― Nora Ephron

 

Question

Do you prefer feeling like you’re desired for your looks or for your whole person? Has it always been this way?

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Quote

“Shame is closely related to guilt, but there is a key qualitative difference. No audience is needed for feelings of guilt, no one else need know, for the guilty person is his own judge. Not so for shame. The humiliation of shame requires disapproval or ridicule by others. If no one ever learns of a misdeed there will be no shame, but there still might be guilt. Of course, there may be both. The distinction between shame and guilt is very important, since these two emotions may tear a person in opposite directions. The wish to relieve guilt may motivate a confession, but the wish to avoid the humiliation of shame may prevent it.”

― Paul Ekman, Telling Lies

Question

What’s something you were ashamed of as a child? What’s something you felt guilty about as a child?

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Quote

“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”

― Brené Brown

 

Question

How do you act when you’re ashamed about something? How would you like me to respond next time you’re feeling ashamed about something? 

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Intimacy is created in lots of ways – by being physically intimate, by creating small rituals, and – by getting close emotionally. By using the sex and emotions quotes outlined in this blog post, you’ll be getting to know more about one another, your relationship with sex and how you both work emotionally – cultivating true intimacy.